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derofeba
Hi you guys .. I really REALLY need some advice here !! My first crush was my best friend at the time, three or four years ago. After one year and a half I told her how I felt and she set me straight about her sexual orientation and our relationship. I actually took it quite well I think. A few months after I met another girl, we became friends really fast, and now I look back and I might have felt attracted to her, somehow I just ignored that or didn't even noticed because of my history with straight girls. Turns out she was kinda into me, and when she kissed me I realized we could have something there. We dated for a year, it was a secret because she didn't want to tell anyone because of her parents. Anyway, I broke up with her because of several things but we're good now and still very good friends !! My first crush knew all about us towards the end of it and encouraged me to end it because of the reasons I had, she was really supportive. Anyway, we're all good friends, I feel like a have a better connection with both of them then they have with each other. The thing is (sorry for taking so long to get here) my first crush still messes a lot with me. She's like always saying "would it be funny if I started dating your ex?" and I think to myself "NO, the only reason you turned me down is because you're straight if you date another girl, then I'm the problem" and I know she's just joking, but it hurts, A LOT. And now, she just posted a new profile picture on facebook with my ex saying "sisters can have different blood" and I feel like SHIT, seriously. She never did that kind of stuff with me. I know it's soooo silly, but I don't know what do to !! I moved to another country and this still gets to me !! I know I'm young (only 17) and this may seem a brats' lament, but it seriously hurts. I just want it to stop .. Please ! Does anyone has any advice?
Thank you so much for your time reading all this :)
Thank you so much for your time reading all this :)
deleted_user
Have you told them that they're hurting your feelings? It sounds like you're being left out, and that's not fair. You were buffs with the first girl in the first place, and your ex shouldn't just take over your friendship. If you still seem on good terms after the breakup, she could be faking your friendship and trying to make you jealous, or she might have a crush on your friend. Tell your friend that you find the jokes hurtful anyway.
deleted_user
Bffs * not buffs. Haha sorry :-)
derofeba
I just want to move move on .. My first crush has a boyfriend now (found out yesterday ..) she hasn't told anyone yet besides me. I just want to be able to move on. Just that. If I talk to her about this, things are going to get complicated. I don't want more complications in my life. I just don't know how to move on ..
KitKat13
I kinda know how you feel. I have had a crush on my best friend and now we are less close (she doesn't know I had a crush on her) It hurts alot and I got really upset. I am still really good friends with my crush but I have to remember how other people can make me feel and not just her. It has helped me alot and it might help you
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