Gay & Lesbian Teens Support Group

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converseoleander 09/12/2011

I'll be 18 in four months, I met my gf online and we recently met in person for the first time but we've known each other for over a year. I'll be graduating high school in roughly 8 months and she and I are planning on her coming to my graduation, then we'll take a train back to her state. My parents know nothing. I'm going to 'come out' to some family friends tomorrow because I needed them to help me get my gf back to the airport so she can get home in time for work. I trust them not to tell but I know I have to come out at some point, I just don't know when. I know my mom at least knows/expects but she's in denial, majorly.

Advice? Please?

deleted_user 09/13/2011

You should go for it darling, it is always worse than you think, trust me ;)
And if they expect it well half the battle is won.

pOpZiNlOvE 09/13/2011

If you can, you should just say it. I know my mam knows that i'm a lesbian because my big mouthed sister has plenty of conversations about it with her. But i'm still afraid to say it. But I think if your ready, just go for it. I hope everything goes well for you.

deleted_user 09/13/2011

I'm 22 I met my gf online as well (met when we were 16), been together for 6 years now and going strong, she's actually moving with me in a week so whoever tells you LONG DISTANCE relationships never work out is lying, trust me if you want them to work they will.

Anyway, We met about 2 years after the whole online thing, I told my family she was just my "best friend" ( I wouldn't recommend that )

I just recently came out about 8 months ago and it was the most relieving feelings, felt like a HUGE weight lifted off my shoulders. I didn't have to pretend to be someone I wasn't. I wish I had told a loooooong time ago.

In my opinion, it's better to tell your parents sooner rather than later. The more you wait the worse it'll get. And half the time it's not as bad as you think it's going to be. It WILL be hard for them to cope at first, they might think it's a phase, or they might think someone turned you this way. Give them time, if they ask questions after you tell them , ANSWER THEM. Don't leave them in the dark, let them into your lifestyle.

Just a word of advice, SIT YOUR PARENTS DOWN, and talk to them in all seriousness. If you need to cry, cry.

And I promise, once you come out you'll feel AMAZING.

If you ever need anything, I'm here!

Good luck hun! xo

converseoleander 09/17/2011

I CAME OUT TO HER :))) I feel so empowered now, thank you everyone!

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