Gay & Lesbian Teens Support Group
This community is dedicated to teens that identify as Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual or Transgender or are questioning their sexual orientation. It's a supportive community where LGBT & questioning teens can give or get advice from their peers or just hang out. Please do not join this community unless you meet the description above. Thanks!
My life is confusing but I guess so is everyone else's. I haven't come to my family, well technically I have but they didn't believe me sooo Ya, They say that they are okay with LGBTQ+ and all that but when ever I bring up the subject they all moody and start acting homophobic. My mother doesn't believe in all these other sexualities, she says that there are only three straight, gay, and bi. I try to explain to her that the other sexualities are there because people are trying to explain themselves so that people can understand them She gets all worked up saying that teenagers are just going through a hormone cycle which may confuse our way of sexual thinking. I am lost I have tried to explain things to her but she won't understand. When I told her that I was demisexual she said, "oh so you are one of 6hose made up things." I told her what it meant and she was just started yelling at me because either put a different word on love and that why can't you just use love. I don't know how to get her to see the light on the subject.
When I came out as pansexual my family and friends were like "okay" and just accepted it. I was lucky. Gender was a different situation but it's because it involves changing my physical self. I had that thing where people my age would make the joke about loving pans and I'd just make a groaning sound and ignore their unneeded self comforting humour. That's the trick really, get used to the responses and ignore the response. They refuse to accept your logic, then refuse their logic and they will see that they have not won. Not that there is anything to win but the battle but your casualness about it will normalize it.
This is a norm to you, feeling this way. This is your natural feeling about love. I have the same feeling as I have since discovered I am demisexual and panromantic, or demipansexual, or whatever people want to call it because I just see it as love. And describing it that way is comforting for me and others because it's my place in a lingual society.
Ask her why her limit is bisexuality. If she is comfortable with other people being in a same-sex relationship but not you? (making a "what if?" statement if you wish) Why people who don't have raging hormone confusion are in same-sex relationships? Everyone obviously has limits but why should she limit you? She should stop you from getting hurt but how is this hurting you? It's the way you feel. It's your life so stick to it. Stick to it for all those years (unfortunately that's what it's taken for some of my family to realise that my gender identity crisis is not a phase) and be persistent.
I'm only 19 and now all my hormones are not like a "raging teenager" there is less or no resistance to what I'm saying about myself. I'm still in the teen years but I'm out of puberty. You can do it, you don't have to get her to understand or accept it, it's the respecting it that's important for you.