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I'm a 17 year old female and I'm confused as to whether I'm gay or not. I've always been fantasizing about girls and I thought it'll stop when I get out of school since it is an only girls school, but it never stopped. I don't have any guy friends maybe because I keep distance from them simply because I'm not interested in them. But now this thing keeps eating me from inside. I can't decide whether I'm gay or not. I don't have a problem in being gay, I get emotionally and sexually excited when I'm with girls, and I like fantasizing about them. I just need to come to a conclusion that am I really gay or am I only thinking that I'm gay because I don't really know what it is to be with guys? Is it all in my head? Am I being really stupid and over thinking? I recently fell for my straight female friend or atleast that is what I think happened, and she told me it's all in my head, I've never been with guys and hence I'm jumping to conclusions. And since then, since I need to get over her, I'm more anxious and want to come to a conclusion as soon as possible.
I've spoken to my friends about it and they they've been really understanding and said they'd accept me however I am. But now I'm just hoping that I'm gay because I feel that if I turn out to be straight, my friends will call me stupid to have thought about being gay when I wasn't. So I don't know whether I really am gay, or want to be because getting to girls is easier than getting to guys and all... I know it's all messed up!
I know the answer is simple, I need to hang out with guys more often and then come to conclusion. But I would also like to know others opinions, thankyou.
I've spoken to my friends about it and they they've been really understanding and said they'd accept me however I am. But now I'm just hoping that I'm gay because I feel that if I turn out to be straight, my friends will call me stupid to have thought about being gay when I wasn't. So I don't know whether I really am gay, or want to be because getting to girls is easier than getting to guys and all... I know it's all messed up!
I know the answer is simple, I need to hang out with guys more often and then come to conclusion. But I would also like to know others opinions, thankyou.
Also i dont think you should feel like you have to try and get over your feelings fir your friend. I have had feelings for my bet friend now for about nine months and i always felt like i should get over them but now i think differently. Just because your friend happens to be straight it doesn't mean you cant have feelings for her. If feeling that way about her makes you happy then you should feel that way. There's no point lying to yourself about things like that because then you won't be happy
Sorry if this was hard to understand... But i hope i helped xx
Also don't assume its either lesbian or straight because it isn't. There are so many different types of sexual orientation so just because you're not straight it doesn't mean you have to completely rule out the chances if you ever having feelings for a man
hope i helped xx
By the way, i really appreciate that you're trying to help me out, thankyou.
I dont think you think about it as making a wrong decision. Just because you decide to identify as lesbian it doesn't mean you're committed to that for the rest of you're life. It doesn't matter if you end up changing you're mind, in fact changing you're mind is healthy!