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Im a very confused female who is struggling to figure out herself as a lesbian. I have known since i was little that i have always gravitated towards females more, not only because i was raised by my dad more when my parents divorced, but that my mom wasn't the most loving mom in the world and i needed that love that a mom gives her daughter. But now i am struggling with these sexuality issues or not. i know that one day i want to get married and have kids, it's just i don't know if it will be with a girl. i know in my heart that i love girls and would love to be in a relationship with one, but i never have been with a girl. So would you concider me a lesbian? If i have never been with a girl, but have talked to one, and have flirted with one, does that make me a lesbian?
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Only you can define your sexual orientation. If you think you are a lesbian, then you are. It will probably change several times for you as well. Don't let other people tell you who you are, or how you feel. It's okay to be confused. It might help to experiment a little, with both genders. Then you can sort of compare and see what kinds of things you are feeling. I encourage you to try not to judge your feelings, just notice them and try to accept them. Remember, you're the only you!
karleyjo11
Thank you jmryan:) i have experimented with boys and have tried things with guys its just everytime they want to do things with me and touch me i feel, in a way, discusted. So that's one of my main reason's why i am the way i am.
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I struggled with that when i first figured out i was bi, I think what ever is in your heart is what makes you who you who you are. Just because you havent been with a girl doesnt mean that your not they way you are. Only you can figure it out. And when you figure it out everything just kinda flows.
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I'm still in that struggling stage too, only no women in my town are interested. Flirting and talking to others of the same sex does not make you homosexual. I know because I have straight friends that 'flirt' all of the time. I can relate to your mom not doing as much as she could, but one thing is for sure, karleyjo, and that is she does love you. I don't know how she shows it or how much you mean to her, but you are her daughter. Now, as far as marriage and kids go, there are ways to get married and adopt if you are a lesbian. Simply put, only you can determine such things. I will be here to help you, but I cannot do it for you.
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Flirting and talking to girls does not make you a lesbian. Sleeping with girls (and enjoying it) does not make you a lesbian. Unfortunately it's far more complicated. I like to explain it by who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Most people aspire to have a monogamous, long-term partner. Do you want that partner to be a boy, girl or either one? It's a long process of discovering who you are. Don't worry too much. Be yourself, love who you love and piece together the puzzle. :) Feel free to message me if you need to talk/vent.
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