Gay & Lesbian Teens Support Group

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LovelyLashes 09/03/2011

I have a really good friend who is Bi, and nobody knows that she is but me, and I am bisexual too. My mom knows I am bi, and also that my friend Olivia is. Olivia invited me to sleep over at her house, but my mom said no because we are both bisexual. She said it was like if I ahd a sleepover with a boy. She was okay with it when I came out, I think she even expected it, but she won't let me have a sleepover with one of my good friends, now that she knows I'm bi. What should I do?

deleted_user 09/03/2011

Try to explain to her that you two are just friends that no sex will happen or anything like that. I know my mom wouldn't care about me sleeping over a girl's house even if I was younger than I am, just because she knows we're both girls, it's not like we'd get pregnant or anything.

But just explain that you two are just friends that you're not interested in her and nothing will happen. If that doesn't work, just accept it till you get a little bit older (I don't know how old you are) then work from there.

LovelyLashes 09/04/2011

We are both freshman. I've already told my mom that I'm not interested in her (althought, in truth, I kind of am...), but she won't listen. She said it was like me sleeping over at a boys house, even if I didn't like him. ???

deleted_user 09/04/2011

Well even my mom wouldn't let me sleep at a guy's house when I was a freshman either, regardless of me being gay. She didn't trust the boy; not me lol

derofeba 09/06/2011

I don't know if you should take my advice, I dind't even came out yet to my mother. I'm a lesbian or bi, I'm not sure yet, and I just told my dad, no one else. So... I'm not a very good example XD
But, if I were you, sure about yourself and with an open relationship with your mother (I guess it is) and you already told her you are not interested in her. Just ask her to put herself in your shoes... She's your mother, probably one of the persons who knows you best. Start from there, take it easy. Tell her that you are going to be as honest as you can be and tell her what's on your mind. Nice and easy :) Try to make her understand that is not exacly the same our relationship with girls and boys. Show her that she thinks that it's like a sleep over with a boy, and that boys are not to be trusted, show her that girls are not boys. Maybe you already did all this... Maybe not. Sometimes a good conversation can take hours and in the end it always worth something. Maybe she will say no again, but you are building a path to your next sleepover ;)
Like I said... I'm not a big of an example :D

derofeba 09/06/2011

And one more thing: You are bi, so you can't sleepover with boys nor girls. There are no other genders. So... You are not allowed to have friends and have a nice night in their house or they in yours because you may end up naked? Well... Is just a point of view that you may use :)
Goog luck !!

Kiss kiss XD

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