Hi there. I wish I could reassure you, however I am pre-surgery also. But according to everything that I have read you are not feeling anything that most all of us are thinking at some point lol
Every day I am questioning myself if I am making the right choice, it's both exciting and terrifying. I just wanted you to know that your not alone and I am here if you need to talk. Best of luck to you

Hello, I am also preparing for surgery; I do not have surgery a date yet. Lately, I have asked myself the same questions. I am constantly challenged by the potlucks at work (its considered being anti-social if you do not attend) and my family members eating around me, although they have been very supportive of my decision to have the RNY. At the end of the day, I remind myself, the reason I'm doing this for my health, I want to live the best possible life, with the time I have left, going forward...this helps me get through another day. Stay encouraged!

Hi! You've only just begun. Yes, there is and always will be food everywhere you turn. Fortunately, we can always contribute by bringing healthy food we can eat. This tool is just that, a tool. We are always responsible for how we use it and the choices we make. You can live on a small amount of food after surgery and the rest of your life. We certainly don't starve, and that's how we all shed the weight! No one ever said this would be easy. It's not. I'm going on 7 years and still have to make healthy daily choices. I had no complications and haven't regretted my choice even once. I'm not sure if I would even still be alive if I hadn't chosen this. This is not an easy road to choose but it can be wonderful if you keep your sights set of what you want in the end. Focus, focus, focus! Wherever you put your focus is what you get. If your focus is on struggling, then that's what this journey will be for you. If you focus on taking back your life one choice at a time, living your life to the fullest, finding daily reasons to be grateful, and enjoying the challenge of finding new healthy ways to feed you and your family, then this will be what you create. You can do this!

Thank u so much

Hi there, I just joined. I have no surgery date yet. I too have been wondering if I am doing the right thing and I get scared too.

I went to the psychiatrist for clearance last week and he said that he wanted me to meet with another psych in the same practice. That was hard to swallow. I have been in therapy for several years working on issues in my life. I got to the point that I could work on my eating issues this past year. There was a lot to work on first lol.

Anyway, I thought about just trying for the millionth time to do this on my own. I can loose weight but I put it back on. I went to the new psych in the same practice today. He was wonderful. I strive to always be truthful so at the end I asked him if it was normal to be worried and afraid sometimes of the surgery. He said definitely yes. Many don't admit it but many of us do have concerns and fears.

Like Lcat4 said in her/his excellent post for newbies. Its up to us to learn all we can about this tool.

So, you are not alone. My name is Nancy G. I am 54 and I have diabetes and other co morbid diagnosis'. I am wanting this surgery for my health. My goal now is to continue to work on my issues surrounding eating and also all I can about pre-op and post-op work.

Talk soon!

It is a honeymoon to get your guts rearranged. It is easy not to eat much in the beginning because you can't nor do you want to... so it is human alive tissues and it will stretch as time goes on. I am 2 yr 6 mos out and feel like the rubber has meet the road. The training wheels are off. So it is a daily work and growth and being aware and eating just one and liking it. It is a tool. You have to think it through because all the woman I know in the real world who have had a sleeve or gastric men too have started to gain the weight back. It is an easy trap old patterns old you. Continue to learn. This life is so much better not lugging around these cement boots. It is freeing we just have to know we deserve to be free. I have to know and also it ain't a walk in the park address these patterns.. one breath at a time.

Hi everyone. I am at the beginning stages and just wondering if I can really do the work required to have gastric bypass surgery. I have lost a large amount of weight before only because I ignored my life and exercised every moment. But now married with 2 kids and I just eat or crave all the time. Lot of uncontrollable emotional eating. I tried the liquid diet part that a friend who had the surgery told me about and it only lasted a week because I was constantly dizzy. I have given up on myself and I don't know what it will take to get me to focus on my life. Therapy has been a little helpful but I have to be strong and committed before having this surgery and I don't know how to get there so I feel prepared. Advice?

I had gastric bypass 6 weeks ago. The two weeks prior to surgery were very tough! You're still hungry, but must now only take in liquids. After surgery, you have no appetite and it's hard, real hard to get in all the nutrition you need! Stick with it, the reason for the liquid diet before surgery is to shrink your liver and make surgery safer!