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My husband and I are officially on hiatus from work effective today and patiently awaiting my big day on Tuesday. When I came home from work my husband left me two notes on my desk and they were very touching prayers that he had written out to God asking him to get me through my surgery and restore me to good health. I have to tell you that the prayers and scriptures he left for me to read literally brought me to tears. In his words, my husband reassured me as he does constantly of his love and commitment to me and our marriage.
Ladies and gentlemen, please know and be mindful that It's okay for our mates/spouses to have concerns and even be fearful for us. I've been married 29 years and God forbid something should happen to me it would affect his life in a very profound way. Being with someone for nearly 30 years is longer than I've ever been by myself - we took those vows all those years ago and we promised before God to love and honor one another, to be here for one another for better or worse in sickness and in HEALTH. That is what we have done for 29 years and when I needed it the most he renewed his commitment and re-vowed to stand next to me and support me through life and this surgery. I can honestly say that although my faith is strong, my husbands is stronger and he stands on the word of the Lord, trusting Him for all things and my heart soars that on his first day off - he sat and had a talk with the Lord in his pvt time about me and my health.
I am so blessed, tears rolling because this is what defines love and marriage.
Sometimes fear can lead to what seems like ignorance and sometimes words are spoken that sting and cut - often to the point of insensitivity to your plight but if you know the heart of the person you love/married take the time to dig a little deeper and keep in mind that you are probably the love of this persons life and the thought of living life without you can be petrifying to them - so instead of reacting negatively to their negativity, try hugging and reassuring your spouse/boyfriend that everything will be alright if you just get through it together as a team. This also goes to the mothers/fathers who gave us life they may not know how to say the right things but you are their child and they would be lost without you. Don't retaliate, reinforce and reassure.
Blessings Tam
Ladies and gentlemen, please know and be mindful that It's okay for our mates/spouses to have concerns and even be fearful for us. I've been married 29 years and God forbid something should happen to me it would affect his life in a very profound way. Being with someone for nearly 30 years is longer than I've ever been by myself - we took those vows all those years ago and we promised before God to love and honor one another, to be here for one another for better or worse in sickness and in HEALTH. That is what we have done for 29 years and when I needed it the most he renewed his commitment and re-vowed to stand next to me and support me through life and this surgery. I can honestly say that although my faith is strong, my husbands is stronger and he stands on the word of the Lord, trusting Him for all things and my heart soars that on his first day off - he sat and had a talk with the Lord in his pvt time about me and my health.
I am so blessed, tears rolling because this is what defines love and marriage.
Sometimes fear can lead to what seems like ignorance and sometimes words are spoken that sting and cut - often to the point of insensitivity to your plight but if you know the heart of the person you love/married take the time to dig a little deeper and keep in mind that you are probably the love of this persons life and the thought of living life without you can be petrifying to them - so instead of reacting negatively to their negativity, try hugging and reassuring your spouse/boyfriend that everything will be alright if you just get through it together as a team. This also goes to the mothers/fathers who gave us life they may not know how to say the right things but you are their child and they would be lost without you. Don't retaliate, reinforce and reassure.
Blessings Tam
Blessings
I am glad you are doing better, and I so look forward to hearing about your journey... I love your faith and your love for the Lord....
Keeping you in my prayers and thoughts...... xoxoxoxo ... Kathi
i always try to be supportive to my wife as she struggles with type 1 diabetes...
you are a team in marriage..no matter what
you probably already know these ..but heres a few i have found that really say it all
romans 14:17
isaiah 40:31
smile and enjoy your blessings i always say
hugs
sweden
Resolution: I reassured him that I've done my research - I know the importance of following the diet to the letter and taking care of me - that this is not a quick fix it is a lifestyle commitment. I got him to read wls for dummies and now that he knows what I do about the risks and consequences he knows how committed I am. When I first heard those words "Your own your own" I went into shock because there has been so such thing in 29 years so I felt like my heart was breaking - but when the light came on I realized that he was retreating so I would be forced to stay on my game, I fell in love with him all over again. (tough love ain't easy but OMG sometimes it's just necessary). He said on those nights I work late, you must eat. Don't hold dinner, don't wait for me. Make sure you take care of you because my life is nothing with out you.
It made me stop and realize how God in his infinite wisdom used my rock to steady me, to transfer my fears to my strength and seal any doubts I had that my best friend, partner and lover cared about me so much that he was willing to break my heart in order to save my life. I share this with you because sometimes we don't need to be coddled, we need the raw uncensored truth about some things. Given half a chance without this surgery, yes we would start every fad diet out there, loose the weight - something in our lives would crash and we'd eat the pounds right back on. So is it a wonder that anybody would take us serious in pursuing something so drastic as wls - the commitment to the life style change alone is challenging. And it only tackles one thing in our lives "the weight", what do we do with all the other things that have threatened our progress in the past?
The wls is a first step to total healing if you allow it to be. You still have to look at the total picture and ask yourself just how far out on a ledge am I willing to go to really "save my life" because unless you tackle your life, mind body and spirit, We will never conquer or live the lives God meant for us to have. You can't just say loosing the weight will restore totally happiness without working on the whole package that makes you who you are. So one of my biggest challenges is co-dependency - my husband was brave enough to point that out - hell he shoved it in my face and I had to take it in order to move forward.
I know I am rattling on but its because in 5 days - well really 4 because on the 5th day my life as I know it changes forever and I want the whole package. I don't want to be thinner and still be holding onto luggage that could potentially send me spiraling backwards.
Just food for thought, I wanted to share. Revelations are occurring all the time - eye opening realities that are the foundation for true healing. This is not the time for cover-ups or false truths. It's time to come face to face with ourselves. I am made strong because I faced my weaknesses.
Love you all.