It's a head thing. I went through this and others before me have went through this.

This is not silly. I went through the same thing. It is hard. Our minds are used to us eating what we want so the thought of that changing is difficult.

Hi Becca,

I totally understand where you are coming from:) When I started the 6 month nutrition period I was excited and lost weight the first couple of months. Then it hit me that some foods I would never be able to eat again. So yes, I did the farewell tour to chicken wings, fried mushrooms, lemon cookies, steak fries - you name it. I was freaking out when I saw my nutritionist again and she laughed and told me I was totally normal. She gave me the best advice - if you want a bite of something you shouldn't be eating, really concentrate on that first bite, in terms of taste and texture and decide if it's worth eating. At month five I was craving home- made macaroni and cheese. I made it (feeling guilty the whole time) and then took my first bite. To my surprise it felt greasy and oily and I ended up throwing the rest out.

I am now having RNY in four weeks.I felt so good by month 6 that I am walking four miles a day and lost more than the amount I needed to qualify for surgery.

This group is the best, and no matter what stage we are at in our journey, there will always be someone who understands what you are going through!

Take care,

Diana

I went through the same thing. Thinking about all the food I won't be able to have anymore and really wondering if the surgery was for me. It was and I do not regret it one bit. I got my best advice at that time: Nothing tastes as good as healthy feels. It is so true. So what if I can't have chocolate cake again. At least I am going to live long enough to miss it.

Good luck with your journey.

Michael

I totally agree!! I have been going through the same thing. I don't have any pre-op diet restrictions, and have know for four months that I was going to have the surgery. I have been "saying goodbye" and having "last suppers" for months. I didn't think I was this attached to food until I really accepted that I was giving it up. The joy of overeating wasn't going to be something I could do.

I decided to self impose a liquid diet for a week before my surgery, and I am in the middle of that now. Surprisingly, it isn't as hard as I thought it was going to be and I am happy to feel so much more in control. I think I am at peace, have said goodbye to my old life, and am beyond excited about starting my new one. My mantra, when I get sad about losing all the foods I loved, is "don't worry, you have already had enough of that." It is silly and simply, and kinda stupid, but for some reason it works for me. It reminds me that I am not being deprived ... I have spent a lifetime eating "enough" of everything and I don't need to be sad about losing it now.

I wish you so much luck!! I am sure you are going to do great!

What support! Thank you everyone!

I went through the same thing. Twice, actually, as my surgery was postponed indefinitely for a bit... It seems to be perfectly normal response according to everything the doc & nutritionist said...

Becca,

I had the same feelings and decided to have what I wanted. Since I started this adventure I have been cutting everything in 1/2. So I made a list of "last suppers" and had them before my surgury date. Very few did I finish and maybe a year from now I can have some of them again, in tiny portions. In fact, I ended up throwing out much of the leftovers ... too many goodies, too little time. I don't regret it and don't really have many cravings. Just for saltines when I went back into the hospital (lol).
Good luck all - we will get through this, together!

well, yep, I had tons of last suppers. It became a joke to me after awhile. My last supper. lol And I had so much fried chicken it was not funny. And you know what? I still miss fried chicken but have NEVER went back to it. Maybe just missing it is better, getting sick from it would NOT be a good memory. I will just think of fried chicken with fondness. :) . I liked the fat on the meat. Well, Ok, I can't say I have not tried that. It made me sick. Pooping your pants is embarrassing no matter if you are alone or not ! Just figured I'd let you know there are consicquences. Sorry for the spelling hope you can figure it out. Any how. I did enjoy myself, all the while knowing I would not be able to eat like I did before. It is worth it. And you are normal..........

oh, and as far as gaining like you said. I just figured I was going to lose it any how. lol Was that bad thinking or what???? try and keep it cool and not gain a lot. You still have to lose it and it takes work even with the bypass... blessings and hoping you lose all you want and be happy !

OHH I did this too, I just finished jumping through the hoops and I am waiting for a surgery date. Treat yourself, but don't go crazy...the more you can lose before surgery, the better off you will be later :)

Hi; I'm new to this site, but thought I'd just jump in. I'm 13 months post-op w/a Rouen Y and am doing fair w/my weight loss at about 110# so far. But I ran into the pig-out-on-what-I-can't-have thing YEARS ago!!! 'Found' the reaction when I tried dieting my way down: let me say 'I can't have XX' and watch me gobble tons of it! Or 2 tons of something else trying to avoid the 'no-no'!! So I wised up and changed to 'cut back on XX' and that's been working for me since.

Another factor to my story is that I had a VBG in '89, so had 'practice' in slow to-mush chewing [as fast or swallowing too large a chunk = barfing. I did ALOT of barfing!] With this surgery, I find I eat MORE than I did B4 :-( Still lost weight due to the by passing of some intestine, but was concerned my pouch was too large. Turned out it isn't--"culprit" is that I have a larger exit now so food leaves my pouch faster than w/my old surgery. This is disapointing as now I have to come to grips w/the fact that I'll have to face non-stomach-dictated portion control to keep losing now :-( But DON'T LET MY SITUATION DEPRESS THE REST OF YOU!!! You'll be going from 'normal' stomachs that hold about a quart to smaller and won't have my issue. But you'll have a different frame of reference, so keep your chins up!

Anyway, don't think 'never more', but 'less' or 'smaller'. And w/my surgeon, weight gain = delay in the setting of the surgery date [I was required to lose weight 1st to demonstrate ability to make the necessary life style changes for continued sucess of the surgery, which they emphasied was a TOOL and not a 'magic bullet'.] Moreover, I do NOT have trouble eating any foods except raw carrots; I just need 2B sure I propery 'chew to mush' as per directions. So take heart :-)

Hope I was of help.