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Well i have witnessed my first shock at what someone can say. I have friends of all shapes and sizes. Down to fitness models and athletes and none of them have belittled anyone. I was at my sons football practice, he's been going for about two weeks now so Ive been talking to some of the parents for this time period. Well the one wife and husband we always talk to blew my mind yesterday. (the husband) I was talking to his wife and out of no where he says "disgusting" I'm like what.... The wife looks and says oh he finds fat people disgusting. Huh? We are military and she looks at me and says you know the military now will pay for people to have the surgery to get skinny. I ask him, well how do you know she doesn't have a health issue? A thyroid issue? His response was "she could have a oreo issue" I feel like I could have said well I weighed 220.00 pounds. I had the surgery to get skinny... I feel ashamed that I didn't. Not many people know that I had the surgery and now I feel like I'm on his level for not saying anything. I used to be so brave and now i feel so weak and self conscience. Im sure I will end up snapping if i hear it again though because I'm really bothered this statement. I think if I had my husband there i would have been a little braver as he is my support but i don't know honestly. I don't want to be judged or labeled which is why I don't tell many people. Feeling really bummed with myself right now.
Dont let them take away the confidence youve built for yourself. People like that project the perfect image of themselves by putting others down. My guess is it is not all what it seems on the surface.
It's not my nature to be rude, but my thought was that someday I may be thin, but he'll still be an a** h***. Not very kind, I admit, and I'm ashamed that it's taken several years before I can pray for healing for whatever hurts him so bad that he has to behave like that, but worse yet is the fact that no one else said anything.
My rude man and your co-team dad are showing their ignorance, bad manners and the fact that their mothers didn't love them enough to slap them when they spoke like that (smart ass alert: I don't really advocate slapping your children, however, it might have helped these guys)!! The wife enabling that kind of behavior is worse, because she recognizes that it's something to be apologized for, yet still doesn't say anything against it. No excuses, these people are toxic.
Leave them alone, tell them why if you need to, and pray for them. That kind of behavior demonstrates the most pathetic lack of compassion and manners. It also advertises a very tiny, frightened, under-developed soul, the kind found in all bigots.
So sorry you've had to go through that. Just know that we can choose to be better than that and grow through it. Take care.
Some of the ignorant are teachable - others aren't. I try to educate the former and disassociate myself from the latter. You tried to say something and he became even more insulting. Had you said any more, you would have been wasting your breath. He totally qualifies as a swine, so there is no use handing him pearls.
Hun, I wouldn't trust him with any personal information. You survived obesity!! Not a lot of people have the courage and strength to make the life-changing decision we did by having surgery. As you well know, it is NOT the "easy way out."
No need to feel guilty or bummed. You are so NOT on his level!!
JJ
I don't think this environment would of been a good time to be a bariatric moment. I also do not think that this should be a fat / skinny issue . I'm "skinny" and sicker then ever ha using his tax dollars infact to pay my medical expenses since my taxes paid in surely have been more then used up. hows that for sweet justice.
don't ever be ashamed of doing something you feel will better yourself. don't ever be ashamed of picking your battles and remember you are not the educator of the world. In this day and age people on both spectrum should be educated enough to have their own opinion on weight , nutrition, exercise. Did you listen when people got after you pre op? did it make you feel good to get those lectures pre or post op?