It is good that you are able to look at your situation and see it clearly. This is a lifestyle change that really demands your focus, so for now let it have the focus. As time goes on and you are accomplishing your goals, open yourself to the opportunities that come your way! Hang in there and you will make it.

Just remember your basics, protein, water, vitamins. The best part is that your tool is still there and working for you. It just needs to be used as its meant to be. Now that you are 5 months post op, the weight loss will naturally start to slow down, even if you are an exercize and protein nazi. Just go with the natural flow of what your body does. Don't beat yourself up thinking that you arn't where you need to be as far as weight loss goes, its much more important to "master" the lifestyle change. The weight loss follows that. I'm glad you are able to refocus on yourself and your son and get the toxic relationship out of your life. Good for you for making you come first!!! Hang in there sweety, we are all here for you!!!!

Andrea,

First, congrats on keep uping up the exercise. That's very important and should be celebrated - try to find a non-food way to give yourself some well deserved credit. A music concert? A movie? Perhaps a little retail therapy? Schedule something this week to reward yourself for continuing to exercise.

Then schedule a bit more time each and every week for playing music. Make it a priority. For people who play, there's just no better therapy - when your mind is deep into feeling the music, you give yourself a break away from all the other stresses. Powerful stuff.

Good for you for owning up and outing yourself. I know that I thought the surgery would solve all my issues and that I would be totally happy if I was not overweight for the 1st time in my life.

While I am very happy with my progress, there are other ares in my life that are still needing work. I hope that if I continue to focus on my weight loss, AND put in the effort in the other areas that I have put in to weight loss, that I will be content.

This is an amazing place to always fall back on for support!!

Good luck with everytihng!!

Chris

Thanks everyone for the encouragement. It's amazing how a change of attitude can change your whole day. I have been so productive and although I'm still sad about the relationship ending, I am very pleased with the things that I have gotten done today and those things have been for me and my son and has had nothing to do with the relationship. I really feel that I'm on the up-n-up!!!!