I look in the mirror and can't see the 165 pound person either. I know I have lost weight and wear a size 12 but my mind hasn't caught up with how much weight I have lost. I never did see myself as a fat person even at 270 either, its weird but I don't see myself thinner at 165 either.
Good luck!

It can take a while for our minds and emotions to catch up with our physical changes. Activity can help--when you find that you can do things that you never could has an obese person, your mind may start to "get it."

But it's also essential that you pay attention to your "self talk"--the habitual dialogue that runs through your head--and to deny and/or correct the things that are just plain wrong or no longer true for you.

When your mind says, "you're fat," correct it: "My weight is normal for a woman my height." etc. YOu get the idea.

Hang in there. This is just another normal part of the transformation we all go through in our meltdowns. :)

Are you taking pics every month? That helps you to see the reality better. Are you in counseling or journaling or working on your emotional issues? That helps. You are not a victim. Get help!

Pictures do help alot. Like Lcat4 mentioned. I have been taking alot more pics with my cell phone so I have them to look at and compare. It really does help. I also have been taking my measurements since surgery too and that helps.

Thank you all for the comments and suggestions. I do take... Or should I say my mom takes pictures of me and I'm constantly putting side by sides up.... I saw a phsycologist who was suppose to use delt with bariatric patients before but when I expressed my issue of not seeing the new me he was surprised and couldn't offer me any advise and had never heard of such a thing. I never went back to him. I think it's always some thing that bothers me cus I know something is not right in my head... But I think it bothers me more when people commenting on how small or skinny I'm looking. It just freaks me out....

Whenever I received "compliments" from people on what I looked like after surgery, I just smiled and said thank you. I didn't get upset at them because after I thought about it, what they were saying was probably a normal response and they thought that by commenting on my weight loss, they were supporting me. In hindsight, I realized that I did the same when I saw that someone in my life was losing weight. The big deal is that I have to be willing to accept myself at the "new normal". Even though my eyes see a "fat" person in the mirror, photos don't lie - I am a thinner person. I have to change the "self-talk", as farmgirl mentions. I also have a wonderful therapist who works on this with me all the time. Come up with an affirmation for yourself that reflects the new you - one of mine is "I like who I've become since GBS". I have it posted on my computer so I see it all the time. When you say something enough, you will believe it and it then becomes your reality. It all takes time - good luck!

Lucy

I still see myself "heavy" tee hee. People say OMG, your a tny mite. Not really. Flabby arse !! and thighs !!!! But then my little clothes fit and the scales never lie. It is weird.........

Im sorry, may I add, YOU LOOK GREAT !!!

The other day my grown son told me I looked Scrawny! I couldn't believe he said that! LOL I too am having a hard time seeing myself thinner. I took my daughter shopping with me so she could help me with how things looked on me. No concept for myself. I kept buying things too big for me. It is bound to get better for us. Right?