I understand, Crystal, and am sorry you feel challenged by this. My husband still eats take out and a lot of junk. I had to come to the understanding that my food relationship is not his issue. However, we did develop respectful rules around junk and unhealthy selection (keeping stuff separate, eating it out of the house or at times when I was already done eating). He lives here and pays some of the bills, so we had to address what was respectful for him too, given that food was my issue and what I chose to change.

Maybe a conversation or a sign addressing respectful interaction might help?

"This is the home of a WLS patient. I am learning new healthy habits and altering my lifestyle. You did not have the surgery, I understand. However, my commitment is to a healthy environment, in all ways, so that I will succeed.

You can support this success by observing respectful principles of interaction. For me, at this time, it includes keeping unhealthy foods (for me) and meal times separate from me. Thank you for understanding; please ask me if you are unclear on the principles or meaning of this note."

I hope this helps; I am trying to creatively think about what might have helped me in the beginning when I couldn't tell cravings from hunger.

Sent with kind intent,

O

nail on the head O.....good luck w/your roommates.....hopefully they will respect your new life {{{{HUGS}}}}

You're in a tough situation. Good luck

Im in same spot im in liquid mood for surgery n today while out i got a call hey can u pick ne up mc D i was like really really ! I didnt do it cause i know me te smell of fries would of gotn me. But i dont see it really as them being rude. Cause we r the ones changing r ways not them. When others eat i go to my room so im not tempted n when i eat now i eat in room so i dont have to see other food. I understand we all have to live under same roof i respect there eatn n them mind . I hope this helps we r the ones changing not others we must do what we must to s

There are a lot of changes we have to make post surgery and I know for me, one was starting to stick up for myself. I'm important. I'm of value. I used to let others walk all over me and then I'd go sneak something unhealthy to eat. Since surgery, I've noticed my triggers and I've started standing up for myself. Sometimes I'm met with resistance, but surprisingly most times others didn't even realize they were doing something that bothered me. My suggestion would be to nicely mention to them that this journey is a tough one and that you'd appreciate their support. One way they could do that is by XXX, another way is YYY. If they adamantly refuse, hmmm, then it's time for new roommates. Hopefully they'll try - they won't always be perfect and you may have to remind them. In parallel, we have to work on our own demons and find ways to deal with the temptations because they'll always be there. I'm trying to go for a walk or leave the room and hit up my support groups :)

Best wishes Crystal!

Good luck - I know it's a tough situation, but you have to protect yourself. Remove yourself, or ask them nicely by explaining the issue. It gets easier with time.

Even thin ppl should stay away from unhealthy fast food or foods high in fat... right? lol Perhaps you can lay magazines or articles around that share how horrible some of that food is for you. Educate with grace ; ) Of course what do I know I am a newby waiting on a surgery date! lol

You've gotten some great advice. I hope can work out a way to make it easier, communication is key.

Thanks you guys, this was really incredible and I feel so much better!