Each of us is different in how we heal.... but for me, I would have been ok. My hubby was home with me for 3 days and I was soooo glad when it was time for him to go back to work! LOL! He did make our son go with me for walks cause he is so protective of me, but it was unnecessary and after my 1st 2 walks of the day I told my son I wanted to go by myself. (They were only 5 min walks anyway!)

However, I have had surgeries in the past where they didn't want me to be alone for 24 hrs after.... For this surgery it never came up tho. We are suppose to walk as much as possible, so getting up to get things for myself I figured was just good for me.

But we are all different.... And we all heal different... and each of us has a different surgery experience. I was very lucky! I've also had much worse surgeries I've recovered from so this was a stroll in the park in comparison :)

Hey lady,
Well, I had a few more complications but I stayed with my mom for a little bit. I was so glad to have the help. I think in your situation, that someone being there is a good idea. but definately not someone unreliable. Do you have any other friends that could stay with you? You may be okay with just the hha however. It just depends like becca said, how well you heal.

I don't live anywhere close, but maybe there is someone in the family here that does that would beable to help you out for that first day or two.
I pretty much just wanted sleep my first two days home, then I started moving in small units. But it all depends on how you handle surgery, so it will be better to have your support in place just in case. You can always send someone home if all is well.

Do you go to church? You could put in a request for assitance and have someone stop by a few times a day for you.

If airfare wasn't so insane right now I would offer to fly for you. :) I hate the feeling of being alone when you really need someone.

Well, I have a really bad back,and can't stand or walk well to start. That is why I am having some concerns. Hips, Knees and back are BAD!

But, if my friend promises to be here, she does know that I really, really need her. My home health aide is great, and she is also a friend, so if it falls on a weekend, I have my cousin, who is a teacher..that can stop over, or she could stop over after work during a weekday or 2...(She works right down the street from my house).

Thanks Golden, you're such a sweetie to say that!

I'm just trying to prepare in advance, cause I don't know what to expect with the condition my joints are in, prior to surgery....how it will affect me moving around after. I do plan on walking with my walker, out on the street!!! Just look for the woman with a walker, walking funny, but walking! I know that's important . But will probably do that every day, when my aide can walk along side me, just in case, cause balance is not 100%.

I really DO need this surgery, so I can walk and stand like a normal person, besides improve my healthy eating!!!!

Boo

i know of others on this site that have gone it alone. they did ok. but i agree with everyone else, we are all so different.

i would schedule the friend, but since she is unreliable, have a back up plan in case you need it. although no ONE person maybe be able to stay with you 24/7, you may find people are able to come by regularly to help.

if i were you once you have your surgery date prep some food. i would freeze little containers or ice cubes of pureed food. use a blender bottle for your shakes and just make one each morning then store in fridge.

for me the hardest part was getting up and down. if your friend doesn't show, if you can at least try to get a person there morning, afternoon, and evening that would help you.

good luck!
Rochelle

I think having someone stay is a good idea. Physically I would have been fine. I moved around in the hospital well and there isn't a lot of food preparation to do. However, emotionally I was a mess. So the first day home I was glad my husband was around or bring me tissues!!

I live alone and when I had my sleeve surgery my Mom stayed with me for about a week. It was due to having dogs and not being able to lift them mainly. I had surgery on Monday and was released from hospital on Fri and she stayed till Fri till the following Sunday I think. I went shopping for 4 hours the day after I was out of the hospital and pretty mobile so it isn't like you are laying around in bed all day post op once you are home. Really they want you to walk and move around so less chance of a blood clot.
Good luck!

I didn't really have a problem moving preop even with my size so I went back into my own home. I did send my dog to auntie Linda so I wouldn't have to do 3 flights of stairs 4x a day for a week. lol.

If you handle pain well you probably will be fine but I would have someone stay at least one or two nights to see.

I would be greatly concerned for you if you are already having trouble getting up to go home alone. Everyone is different and only you know how you handle pain and healing. I kind of feel like, better safe than sorry! Good luck!

Boo you are only an hour south of me...small world.........see if your doctor can set up an aid for you at least at night for a few days. I don't know what your agency you go through now is but there are places that will provide these services. Then if you need extra during the day they can set that up as well. I think you will be in university or St. Joes depending on who your doc is.

When you get your date talk to one of the nurses in your program they do it all.

OH! We are an hour away? Where do you live?

I go thru Visiting Nurse Association, and i'm on their Long Term Health Care program called Options.

I may be able to ask for someone more hours that week I come home, I already mentioned it, so they said they may be able to provide that. Not 100 percent sure, but 'may" be able to...

THanks so much for all of your comments!I I really appreciate it!!

Boo