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Article worth the read if you are having body image issues (and who doesn't ?)
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You Say Flawed, He Says Sexy: What Men Really Think About Your Body
Posted by Claire Casey on July 8, 2014 in Intimate Beauty 18 Comments
This may come as a shock to you but guys have different eyeballs than you do.
You know why Im saying that?
Because when YOU look at yourself in the mirror, you see that front tooth thats a bit crooked, the line where your bra presses in (you call this your back fat), the too-small breasts or the too-wide rear, your goofy knees, funny toes. The list goes on and on.
But you know what your MAN sees?
A woman hed love to strip naked and get busy with right this instant, maybe sooner.
MY PERSONAL BODY PART CONFESSION..
Maybe you have a muffin top thing, but I used to HATE my feet.
When I was a teenager, I had surgery on my big toes (bunions, its such an ugly word!!) and for the next 20 years I zealously covered my feet. I never EVER owned a pair of sandals or open-toed shoes and would have died before I let a man openly look at my feet.
I have a big scar running the length of both big toes. My second toe is longer. My feet are wanky. You know. Ugh, I could make myself MISERABLE thinking about my feet.
Shockingly, amazingly, wonderfully, I found a man actually willing (he would say, desperate!) to marry me.
I hope youre laughing now, but at the time, I found it next to impossible to think about what kind of man would marry me even with these feet.
3 WAYS MEN SEE YOUR BODY
If you asked my man which of my physical attributes attracted him, its really hard for him to move past the standard T&A answer youd probably get from any man. You can almost see a physical effort as he drags his sex-craving brain past the chest, past the butt, and FINALLY hell tell you something like,
She has gorgeous shoulders
I bet he didnt even know I had scars on my feet for the first 10 years we were married.
Heres the thing: Men see your body in three ways, and its nothing like the way you see yourself.
#1 They see what makes you WOMANLY
This means when they look at you they instantly notice the things about your body that make you uniquely a woman. Breasts, hips, ass, curves Even the way you walk. Its nearly impossible for a red-blooded heterosexual male to notice anything before they read the parts of your body that say: I am a woman.
Your arm flaps do not make this list.
Your cellulite does not make this list.
Your stretch marks do not make this list.
Sorry.
#2 They see what makes you UNIQUE
That chipped tooth you hate? They think its kind of charming.
The muffin top? They cant see it because its too near your ass, which they think is the finest thing in nine counties.
Do you think your lips are too thin? They just love it when you smile at them. (And truthfully, when they think about your lips on their body, they are NOT thinking Oh her lips are too thin. I PROMISE.)
If guys notice a particular body part of yours that you think makes you hideous (and I guarantee you they would never use that term) they just think it makes you uniquely you! And since its YOU they are desperate for, they want that part of you as much as the others.
#3 They see what you constantly draw their attention to
This is where you have the power to rock or ruin a relationship.
When you constantly complain about your own body, a mans desire to enjoy and love you are being eroded a little at a time. In other words, youre rejecting him.
He thinks, I could touch her body all day, and you say, Im too flabby.
Youre not only tearing yourself down, youre tearing HIM his thoughts, his desires for you, his excitement about you down.
And it works the other way, too. Show off your pedicure (I do, now!), go sleeveless, wear that backless dress, and ruthlessly tease him with the body he absolutely adores.
A MAN LOVES A REAL WOMAN
Of course he looks at the naked, perfect girls in the magazine or online. And of course youre bombarded with perfect skinny chicks on the runway or the billboard.
But a picture of perfection whether its real or not is no competition whatsoever for a living, breathing, fragrant woman sitting next to a man at a restaurant. Or pressed slightly against him in the elevator. Perfection can go hang; you are up close and personal.
Stepford wives are creepy. You can be assured that while he might fantasize about a playmate of the month, hell take a real woman over a figment of his imagination EVERY time.
Celebrate your body (and let him do it, too)!
Of course you want to invest time and energy into a healthy, beautiful body. But meanwhile, dont let your own issues with your body drive him away. You deserve all the fabulous man-attention as he wants to give you!
Republished with permission, courtesy of Claire Casey http://mytinysecrets.com/you-say-flawed-he-says-sexy-what-men-really-think-about-your-body/
Article worth the read if you are having body image issues (and who doesn't ?)
************************************************************
You Say Flawed, He Says Sexy: What Men Really Think About Your Body
Posted by Claire Casey on July 8, 2014 in Intimate Beauty 18 Comments
This may come as a shock to you but guys have different eyeballs than you do.
You know why Im saying that?
Because when YOU look at yourself in the mirror, you see that front tooth thats a bit crooked, the line where your bra presses in (you call this your back fat), the too-small breasts or the too-wide rear, your goofy knees, funny toes. The list goes on and on.
But you know what your MAN sees?
A woman hed love to strip naked and get busy with right this instant, maybe sooner.
MY PERSONAL BODY PART CONFESSION..
Maybe you have a muffin top thing, but I used to HATE my feet.
When I was a teenager, I had surgery on my big toes (bunions, its such an ugly word!!) and for the next 20 years I zealously covered my feet. I never EVER owned a pair of sandals or open-toed shoes and would have died before I let a man openly look at my feet.
I have a big scar running the length of both big toes. My second toe is longer. My feet are wanky. You know. Ugh, I could make myself MISERABLE thinking about my feet.
Shockingly, amazingly, wonderfully, I found a man actually willing (he would say, desperate!) to marry me.
I hope youre laughing now, but at the time, I found it next to impossible to think about what kind of man would marry me even with these feet.
3 WAYS MEN SEE YOUR BODY
If you asked my man which of my physical attributes attracted him, its really hard for him to move past the standard T&A answer youd probably get from any man. You can almost see a physical effort as he drags his sex-craving brain past the chest, past the butt, and FINALLY hell tell you something like,
She has gorgeous shoulders
I bet he didnt even know I had scars on my feet for the first 10 years we were married.
Heres the thing: Men see your body in three ways, and its nothing like the way you see yourself.
#1 They see what makes you WOMANLY
This means when they look at you they instantly notice the things about your body that make you uniquely a woman. Breasts, hips, ass, curves Even the way you walk. Its nearly impossible for a red-blooded heterosexual male to notice anything before they read the parts of your body that say: I am a woman.
Your arm flaps do not make this list.
Your cellulite does not make this list.
Your stretch marks do not make this list.
Sorry.
#2 They see what makes you UNIQUE
That chipped tooth you hate? They think its kind of charming.
The muffin top? They cant see it because its too near your ass, which they think is the finest thing in nine counties.
Do you think your lips are too thin? They just love it when you smile at them. (And truthfully, when they think about your lips on their body, they are NOT thinking Oh her lips are too thin. I PROMISE.)
If guys notice a particular body part of yours that you think makes you hideous (and I guarantee you they would never use that term) they just think it makes you uniquely you! And since its YOU they are desperate for, they want that part of you as much as the others.
#3 They see what you constantly draw their attention to
This is where you have the power to rock or ruin a relationship.
When you constantly complain about your own body, a mans desire to enjoy and love you are being eroded a little at a time. In other words, youre rejecting him.
He thinks, I could touch her body all day, and you say, Im too flabby.
Youre not only tearing yourself down, youre tearing HIM his thoughts, his desires for you, his excitement about you down.
And it works the other way, too. Show off your pedicure (I do, now!), go sleeveless, wear that backless dress, and ruthlessly tease him with the body he absolutely adores.
A MAN LOVES A REAL WOMAN
Of course he looks at the naked, perfect girls in the magazine or online. And of course youre bombarded with perfect skinny chicks on the runway or the billboard.
But a picture of perfection whether its real or not is no competition whatsoever for a living, breathing, fragrant woman sitting next to a man at a restaurant. Or pressed slightly against him in the elevator. Perfection can go hang; you are up close and personal.
Stepford wives are creepy. You can be assured that while he might fantasize about a playmate of the month, hell take a real woman over a figment of his imagination EVERY time.
Celebrate your body (and let him do it, too)!
Of course you want to invest time and energy into a healthy, beautiful body. But meanwhile, dont let your own issues with your body drive him away. You deserve all the fabulous man-attention as he wants to give you!
Republished with permission, courtesy of Claire Casey http://mytinysecrets.com/you-say-flawed-he-says-sexy-what-men-really-think-about-your-body/
We all dwell too much on how we look.
My ex was too involved with his alcohol and other addictions to look and see me, for at least the last dozen years. Although my head tells me it was all about him and not me, you can probably guess what a broken heart tells me instead....
I will try to keep this in mind, and even if it's just for me, try to see myself with a different perspective.
Thanks for sharing.
And yes ladies.... I think it needs some great points! I'm finally learning to love myself AND my saggy baggy parts!!