NOoo don't do that.
Write, call a friend, look at before and after pics...reimnd yourself of how far you've come and don't let yourself slip into those bad habits.
When I"m upset i usually write..journal or whatever it is to get it out.
Once its out...its easier to deal with.
Thinking about you!!!

You Love Christian Rock. I know cause you listed it under interests. I wonder if you have some favorite "This Day Sucks" songs. I love Pet Shop Boys for wallowing in when I am so mad at myself. Luckily I pull out of it and let my anger turn outwards instead of punishing my self.

Are you on meds? Are you at risk of actually hurting yourself tonight?

I am on medication. Sometime it doesn't help. I don't think I would hurt myself. I just really need something to do to relieve the pain.

saying prayers and sending Gods grace your way!

Put on some music (as loud as you can) and just dance your butt off like there is no tomorrow. You are going to be ok - the food will not make you better it will only feel worse. You can do it, you do have the inner strength!

Be a little "evil" and imagine the one you've lost (really, the one who's lost you) and think of the next time you'll see them. Imagine looking hotter than ever and untouchable. They couldn't touch you if they tried. I did this for over a year once and lost 35 lbs. When I finally saw my ex he could barely keep his eyes off of me - we were at a concert. He couldn't contain himself and caught me by myself when I went to make a phone call. Years later we ran into each other again and he still couldn't get over how alluring I'd been that day. He went home thinking about me and how GREAT I looked and apparently felt about MYSELF.

My father once told me to just "keep walking" when I couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel. He was right, I kept walking in the dark and before I knew it joy had found it's way back into my life. So much so that I barely remembered being that low. This is only a small speck of time, grieve for no more than a week and then refuse to give up any more of your life to an unworthy cause.

Awww Caru me little pickle...
Sounds like you need lots of hugs and lots of giggles again..
When relationships break down it sucks.
But please be kind to yourself, you are making such a change to make life better, and in time hun I am so sure it will.
Who knows whats on the horizon?
Hopefully for you little princess, it will be healthier and much happier....

Things will get better, just try to confide in friends and scream if you want a pick me up.... Lots of us are here, if only in cyberspace....

Your never alone...

Text me if you see me online..... please :)

Love you ( lots )

Buzz xx

Consider what my friends above have suggested. Also, it is often the case (it certainly has been for me) that combining your meds with professional counseling will maximize your benefit.

Having gastric bypass and learning to work with your new tool is extraordinarily stressful all by itself. Add to that the stress caused by your breakup and it is not surprising that you would feel the way you do. You are not 'defective'. You are human. It is NOT a sign of weakness to ask for help. It takes courage and a resolve to change your life for the better. I did not do this by myself. I asked for help. And I'm glad I did.

Consider not just doing one thing, but multiple things. Seek counseling, go talk to close friend, crank up the exercise just a notch, take a break and go do something nice just for yourself - hair? nails? a mini-vacation? be kind to yourself each and every day - not with food but with all the other things that are important.

Everyone here will help in any way we can. You will get through this and it will get better.

Oh honey, it's not worth it. I just broke up with my live-in boyfriend of two years a few weeks ago, and trust me, i was in the same boat as you. It was such a dark place, and trust me, he kept me there for awhile. The other day he picked a fight with me on the phone, and when i hung up with him, i cried for five minutes and decided i didnt want to shed another tear over someone who would treat me in such a way. That quick little decision has lifted the cloud that was hanging over my head for 3 weeks and it has not returned. It will get easier i promise. I wanted to binge eat soooo bad at first, but instead i got on my treadmill and walked a mile until i calmed down. N3wLivi is right, just picture yourself getting thinner and feeling better about yourself, and when you finally run into him again, he will realize what he lost, and you will feel great about that! Keep your chin up hun. Feel free to message me if you need anything. We can share relationship horror stories! :) "Just keep swimming"

caruTH,

I hear you girl. It has been an emotional roller coaster for me since my surgery. I am on medicine for bi polar disorder and depression and there are days when i just want to feel pain in order to forget the other pain. I am a cutter but happy to say i havent cut in awhile but that doesnt help sometimes.

Try to talk to someone or exercise more. I know it sounds easy but it isnt easy especially when there is something going on in your life like there is now with the relationship.

Feel free to contact me vis message if you would like to talk or text outside of this board.

Melissa

Thanks everyone for all the encouragement. I've decided that I really need to get into some counseling for wanting to emotionally eat. I do feel better today.

Caruth, please let out a big cry and than a big shout out to yourself! Tell yourself the truth. That is that you are brave and beautiul and that you only deserve the best in life! You are a wonderful person and you will find the right person for you someday (if that is what you want). Be strong girl and accept some big hugs from those that care about you here and at home!

Caruth,
Am so glad you felt better yesterday! I wanted to reach through the computer and give you a great big supportive hug!! No magic words here but lots of support and positive energy sent your way!!

TA