Marty,
I hate the vibe of your post. It is very disconcerting. You, like all of us, have hit a plateau or stall. Please do NOT hate yourself! You had this surgery for your health, right? None of us gained our weight quickly nor will we lose it quickly, even with this surgery. It takes time and LOTS of head work. Keeping your head "in the game" and staying on your plan are the only advise I can give you. But just remember, YOU ARE WORTH IT!! Stay strong.

Self abuse, hating on yourself, is one of the things we have to change. Look at this as an opportunity to change your thinking and focus on making healthy changes. No one said this would be easy and it will always come down to making one healthy choice at a time. You can do this!

thanks guys. I will keep it in mind, but yes years and years of self loathing takes time to get rid of

Marty, I've read all of your posts and I'm so sorry you are having these feelings of self-loathing. I hope you will be able to get some counseling to help you through these issues.
Yes, we all hit walls and stalls. I'm wondering if your doc gave you food plan guidelines. Some of the things you've mentioned that you eat were very definitely "no-nos" on my particular plan. It sounds like you might be consuming too many carbs, which can cause a stall or a gain. If your doc didn't give you a plan to follow post-up, I suggest you do a little Google search and find the suggested amounts of protein-carb-fat ratios to get you back on track to losing again. The discipline of sticking to a good healthy bariatric eating plan will raise your confidence and surely make you feel good about yourself and your journey. It's not easy....it never will be but I know you can do it. Your good nature and your sense of humor will help you get through this! I'm rooting for you!

Hey Buddy, Don't be doing this to ME. You are my HERO and if you are having problems so am I. I need you and your positive attitude. SNAP OUT OF IT! Love you Marty and understand. I spent about 2 weeks struggling with 3.5 pounds. Drove me crazy (I'm right on the edge, wouldn't take much). We can hate ourselves for two days that is MAX, then we crawl back on the wagon and go some more. Take care. Mary Lou

no worries guys, just some old habits knocking on my shoulder. I will be back bigger and better than before (well not bigger, lol) might add a photo from yesterday on here for you all.

I visited an old work colleague yesterday and his wife went back to India the day before my surgery and got back here last week, well her jaw dropped and she couldn't believe her eyes, she kept on laughing and commenting how much weight i had lost particularly in my face and how much younger i was looking, so feeling somewhat better about it all.

I have a 6 months review with surgeon on 14 July, i will use that to motivate me.

take care and God bless you all

Marty

Marty,

Whenever I get stuck in the mire of self loathing I try to find someone I can help. Even if it's a little thing like keeping someone company or driving someone to the store or calling someone to make their day. It gets me out of my head for a couple minutes and that takes some of the pressure off.

This will pass.

Robyn