Gastric Bypass Surgery Support Group

Gastric bypass (GBP) is any of a group of similar operative procedures used to treat morbid obesity, a condition which arises from severe accumulation of excess weight in the form of fatty tissue, and the health problems ("co-morbidities") which result. If you are considering gastric bypass or have had it, join the community where we share our experiences and find support.

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nal 07/05/2007

I feel really guilty because I am one of the few people who doesn't think what I have endured was worth it. I know I am only almost three months out and i just had surgery again last week, but I miss so much of my old life. Yes i have gone from 256 pounds to 200 pounds, but I am not happy like I thought I would be. I feel crappy most of the time and I miss eating at functions like at the fourth of july cookout yesterday. I had to come home because I felt sick and i was in some pain after my second surgery last week. Has any one else ever felt this way or am I just crazy???

deleted_user 07/07/2007

At meetings people talked about what you are going through. Think of it this way, we gather together to see friends and family; not to see the food. We eat to survive not survive to eat. Your tummy is still new and will take sometime to get use to food, don't push it or it will push you back.

Things will get better, remember to take all things easy and surround yourself with positive people.

nal 07/07/2007

thanks for the encouragement. The problem is if i thought i was going to be alright,I could get through it, but now that I have already had some serious complications I am really scared. I vomited again today and yesterday and feel like the problem I had is returning hopefully I am wrong. If I could eat a little without feeling bad I wouldn't feel so left out, so thanks for the encouragement and I will let you know how I am doing, and I hope you let me know some of the feelings you had. Thanks for the positive feedback.

taadaa58 07/08/2007

Well,in many ways I feel the same way as you do.I'm not sure if it has been worth it either,,yet.I always add that yet not willing to give up this soon to my negative feelings.I am 8 weeks out.I am hoping as I start to feel better and more myself I will not be so regretful.But you also just had another surgery.That can't have helped your emotions and was a set back.Give your self a break.You've been thru a lot in a few short months.Maybe we'll both start being ourselves real soon and can rejoice instead of regret!Hang in there! I understand!

deleted_user 07/09/2007

Yes, this is a stage one goes through. After my first WLS 6 years ago, I remember actually crying because I couldn't eat what I wanted. And not in a poor me way, but a meloncholy - missing a best friend way. It sucks to miss the food at special occasions; always thinking about food choices. It will get easier. You will develop "new" tastebuds - and naturally want the foods that make you feel good. This is exactly what led us to LOVE breads, pastas, cream sauces, etc. Now the process will help us get to and maintain our authentic physical selves. Read your post again, doesn't it kinda sound like you just broke up with a significant other and then saw them at a party with someone new, but you don't have anyone new yet?
Hang in there.
JEN

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