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Well, I was on Facebook earlier and saw a post of a friend that had her surgery shortly after mine. Well she posted her weight loss and she has lost 13 more pounds than me. I really struggled with this even though I know not to compare myself to others. Even though I was 341 pounds, she was a little bigger than me. She will have to have a skin removal surgery half way through. While I am really excited for her, I just felt like a big failure. I am trying so darn hard and my scale is moving at a snails pace.
Kind of off the subject, I am really trying to help get things ready for my daughter's birthday in conjunction with my family. I felt like this year I had done really well. I even got my daughter a special cake. And my mom says "thats too small" and for my presents"she could get hurt with those" and then tells me all the cool gifts they got for her.It has always been a jealousy thing with my family ad myself. Always trying to out do the other one. I just thought I was doing so well, and now I feel like the worst mom. oh and they were like well we are having her slumber party here. Ugh,
Sorry to rant. Just having a hard night and not many people to talk to here.
Kind of off the subject, I am really trying to help get things ready for my daughter's birthday in conjunction with my family. I felt like this year I had done really well. I even got my daughter a special cake. And my mom says "thats too small" and for my presents"she could get hurt with those" and then tells me all the cool gifts they got for her.It has always been a jealousy thing with my family ad myself. Always trying to out do the other one. I just thought I was doing so well, and now I feel like the worst mom. oh and they were like well we are having her slumber party here. Ugh,
Sorry to rant. Just having a hard night and not many people to talk to here.
As far as your daughter, she is YOUR daughter. How you choose to celebrate her birthday should be up to you. Let them try to one up you. We all have to set limits with our children, but you cannot control what others decide to do. Your love to her is the most important thing, not what you buy her. She will know that in the long run.
Don't be too hard on your self for doing what you think is right, whether is it your weight loss or your family.
Lots of luck!
Anyway. Hang in there. Very often it's these negative emotional experiences that have led to our obesity. For real healing, there's more than the weight loss that is needed. We have to learn other ways to deal with the negative emotions and dysfunctional relationships. You may need to push some folks out of your life or severely limit their opportunities to cause distress.
Above all, treat yourself with kindness. Trust your emotions and what your body tells you. You are a valuable, beautiful person who deserves respect and kindness from the people you permit into your life.
If you don't cut people out of your life, at the very least, you can set some boundaries. It sounds like your mum is trying to buy affection from your daughter. You may want to give her a spending limit in the future and insist on previewing any gifts she profers.
Hang in there. Life is messy. :)
And with your daughter... sounds like some toxic family stuff! I hope you find a way to make that right for your own healths sake!