Gastric Bypass Surgery Support Group

Gastric bypass (GBP) is any of a group of similar operative procedures used to treat morbid obesity, a condition which arises from severe accumulation of excess weight in the form of fatty tissue, and the health problems ("co-morbidities") which result. If you are considering gastric bypass or have had it, join the community where we share our experiences and find support.

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ajjnewme
ajjnewme
I am 5 weeks post-op. I am doing ok for the most part. My problem today is my husband. I got 2 cookbooks that are for people that have had gastric bypass. I think they are great but if I cook any of these recipes it would take me a week or longer to eat the whole dish. My husband doesn't want to even look at the cookbook. He thinks the recipes are high carb - they are not. It is like he isn't on board with helping me. I was a little scared of this before surgery but he told me he had my back. I am not sure he does - at least not with this. I am not sure what to do. I am so wanting to try new foods but without his help what do I do. Do I fix the dishes and eat what I can over the next several days then throw away the rest? Support is such a big thing. I have tried to tell him this but he thinks it is just about me. Please help!!!
alcmac
alcmac
Here is my 2 cents worth. You have to be "selfish" for yourself, yes fix the dishes and freeze some so you don't become too tired of them. I myself have always cooked "special" meals for my family who are celliac so have no problems cooking "special" for me. I am doing this for me, my husband and family have a newer more happy, energetic more alive wife/mother. I would fix the special dishes for myself along with regular for my husband, I would not dwell on or even mention the fact that they are from the gastric cookbooks, just put them out if he eats them fine if he doesn't that's fine too. This is your time to take care of you. Sometimes our husbands and families forget that we are valued too and not just there to take care of them. Good luck and take care of you!
ajjnewme
ajjnewme
Thank you alcmac. I think that is what I am going to do. Plus I hadn't really thought about freezing some the leftovers. I also have some great people here at work that is great support. Thank you for the uplifting supportive words.
KatLin
KatLin
yea you can freeze like alcmac said or you can also go to a cooking site and get conversion chart if the book does not have one to cut the recipe in half ...........then still freeze some. He is either going to jump on board seeing you will not back down or he will not either way you are going to be healthy. Besides so newly out you really do not want to mess around an angry pouch is not a fun thing to deal with..
ajjnewme
ajjnewme
Thanks KatLin! No I do not want an angry pouch. I think the freezing idea is a great idea. So is halving the recipe. Thank you!!
invirginia
invirginia
I understand totally. My husband and daughter are not on board with me. Not only do they not want anything to do with my healthier dishes, they continue to eat lots of junk food themselves. I've decided to just do this without them. It's just the way it is for me. I freeze, make smaller batches, whatever. And then I enjoy the HECK out of my dishes! So far it's working fine for me :-) Good luck!!
MNMama
MNMama
Before becoming single again, due to my husband's addictions, I would cook meat and veggie meals, and nuke a potato or make a single order of pasta or rice for his side. He never complained because it fit his "meat and potatoes" diet, but I got my protein in and filled in the spaces with low carb veg.
If you're cooking, there's no need for him to look at the cookbook anyways. If he wants mac n cheese or pizza, send the single serving sizes for him to cook in the microwave at work for lunch.
By the way, I've read about how some spouses feel insecure around weight loss, like you'll get thin, sexy, then leave them. Maybe consider if counseling for your relationship might not be a bad idea. Good luck.
Good luck.
Lcat4
Lcat4
I told my husband from the beginning that I would be cooking what I could eat and that if he wanted any junk food he could get it himself. He supported me and even shed weight himself. I have lots of single serving containers for freezing or taking to work for lunch. I don't generally make huge meals but they can last me for several servings. I don't mind eating the same thing several times in a row.
joannannotti
joannannotti
Yes ...family meals can be an issue. Just remember how important YOU are. How much you've gone through so far and continue to be true to yourself and your commitment to this journey. Sometimes, you just have to put your foot down. This is a difficult concept to most of us who have always been "people pleasers".
So much of our social structure and our family revolves around food. There's nothing better than sitting down with your family for an evening meal and a discussion of the day's events.You can prepare healthy meals for your family (which may or may not include what you can or should ingest). You too have choices when sitting down to a meal.This is all part of the journey and a new learning experience. Take it in stride and roll with the punches (most of which will be aimed at you, your resolve, determination and information ) There are so many lessons to be learned along the way. Best of a whole new world to you and your family.
Jo
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SgtSmith
SgtSmith
Take care of yourself first. He won't stave! LOL!

I fixed what I could eat and the wife ate what ever she wanted. I even went and picked up pizzas for her when I was on the pre op liquid diet.

Life goes on, we got to take care of ourselves and let the rest of the world eat the junk.
SgtSmith
SgtSmith
Sorry I meant to say "He won't STARVE".