We are here for you, you have a plan and you can do this! Try not to beat yourself up with everyone else's problems. I know life can be hard sometimes but losing control only makes it harder.

A favorite quote "There is NO finish-line.
Healthy food choices, move your body,
work on the head. Rinse, lather, repeat. Forever."

Good luck to you, I will be cheering for you!

Just curious... If you were reading this as someone else's post what would your response be? You have been a wonderful inspiration and you have done amazing my friend... you've slipped but you've caught yourself...life with all of it's trials can be difficult to handle God knows... ...I am so very sorry for your rough patch... but I have nothing but faith in your faith that you shall over come this road block... seek help and take care of you ...

Tami - You are a strong beautiful woman, whom has shown the best spirit of anyone on here.

Do not give up! My husband was given a terminal diagnosis and I immedatley gained back 5 pounds. But then I realized I can't help him, if I go back to my old ugly ways.

Honey - this is always what this website has been about. Unconditional love and support. There is no judgement here, but understanding and a sharing of mutual experiences.

We are going through a smiliar journey. PM me and i'll send you my email so we can be of mutual support ot each other.

Hugs,

Diana

Tami, big hugs! I know it is sooo hard. Every single day still takes work, thought and planning. These first four months of 2014 have been really really hard for me too. I have stopped losing well short of my goal but as a stress eater, I am just rejoicing in the fact that I am maintaining. Maybe you can just set this as a goal. You can lose more later when life settles down a bit. Keep reminding yourself of the basics and why you started this journey in the first place. (I've recently started feeling fat again myself--our heads are playing tricks on us.)

Yesterday at our family Easter gathering, my dad asked me if I was still losing. I said no, but I'm maintaining and considering how much stress I'm under, I'm happy with that. He laughed, poked my stomach and said "isn't that what got you fat in the first place?" I was so hurt, but just said something innocuous and walked away. I choose not to let him hurt me.

You can do this girl! Big hugs!

Linda

Linda

You are a stronger woman than me. Father or not, I would have slapped him :)

And you look great!!!!

My surgeon said that our bodies will just slip into a new normal. I still weigh 170lbs but that beats being 250. I may not lose another pound but I wear size 12s and a few 10s and I'm okay with that. I like having boobs and curves and the most important thing is that I can walk 4 miles in an hour and have endless energy. My goal was never to be a size 2

Tami and Linda, this journey is so individual. We need to ignore those outside voices and listen to our own bodies and see what works for us. I am blessed to have a husband and BFF that root me on. If there are negative influences in your life, I would limit your contact with them as much as possible.

Diana

Thanks Diana. I have a boyfriend who is the best supporter I could ever imagine. I am so blessed that he is there every single day to cheer me on, call me sexy and beautiful and tell me he loves me.

Thank you for replying ladies - I really needed a dose of daily strength family and friends today. I don't know what has come over me but i need to shake this depression like no bodies business. I see me up against those purple pants and I know that i've come a long way but for the past week I've felt nothing but disappointment. I pray these feelings disappear soon but everyday it's getting harder to swing back to my old self. I guess it's just sheer exhaustion. I am looking at all of your pictures and I couldn't be prouder of how far you have all come. God willing I'll be able to celebrate my own achievements again soon. Be blessed

Hi There. I have not met you before but checked out your profile, you seem like such a wonderful person and look beautiful. The only advice I can give you is hand in there this should end soon. Hopefully just a short time phase your going thru. I will be praying for you.

Coming here and admitting that your having a rough time is a big step and hopefully we can boost you backup and offer enough support and advise to get you motivated.
I recently gained some weight after having some plastic surgery and I'm having a hard time getting rid of it. I'm going to try the 5 day pouch test diet and see what happens. Maybe you should give it a try too.
I wish you all the best.
Shelley

Tammi, I came on here tonight feeling depressed and sorry for myself and I read your post and it made me cry. I could have written it myself, I've gained 10 lbs from stress eating and I'm mad at myself for allowing it to happen. In the past few months, my husband has been laid off, we've moved into a much smaller home, my son has gotten divorced, there have been major cutbacks in my office. My boss whom I loved was let go and to put the cherry on top of this pile my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer.

I'm feeling so low about everything it's amazing. Just a few short months ago I had reached my goal and was maintaining well. I injured my shoulder and had to have surgery and couldn't exercise and that was the beginning of the slide. Somehow I've gotten it in my head that I don't deserve to be thin and healthy and I'm having a hard time with these thoughts.

I've always been so positive throughout this whole process I just don't know how to get back there. I don't want you or anyone else to think that I'm glad your struggling right now but it does in some small way help me to realize that I'm not the only one. I've read the advice the others have given you and I'm going to try to listen to it myself.

We both started this process around the same time (I'm a bit further out than you if I remember right). Maybe we should both try the pouch test and see if it helps?

Linda, your a better woman than I am, walking away was a great choice but not one I would have made easily.

Dianna, I'm sorry to hear your husband is ill, although not yet terminal my husband is also chronically ill and I know what our future holds. Prayers to you and him.

It's interesting that no matter how long I stay away, I always feel better when I come back on and see familiar faces filled with love, support and good advice.

Hugs to all
Maureen

So Tami, Linda, Maureen, Shelly - we all need a group hug!! How blessed are we, that we have this website, that we can reach out, share common experiences.

Love you all, stay in touch and we will get through our issues together!! we are all strong amazing women and we are not going back to our unhealthy days!!!.

If you need an email buddy when you are having a crappy day you can find me at lilyandkimmi@rochester.rr.com

Diana

I truly love all of you ladies many of whom I started this journey with whether ahead of me or behind me, you've always stood with me and there is nothing more gratifying then coming home to your comfort zone. I am feeling somewhat better although still a little down. This virtual group hug really did my heart some good. To all of those who are facing illnesses or whose love one is in the midst of a storm please know that God has not forgotten about you and He sees and knows all your pain. It is not always easy to pick yourself up and keep going but today my new co-workers vowed to go walking around the track with me every day and that made me shed a few tears. They have all been so supportive of me and it's good to know that I am not alone. I was a little afraid to admit that I had slipped because you know there are always the haters waiting for you to do so, but I realized that what I have accomplished is no small feat and if I did it once I can pull myself up by my boot strings and get back on course.

I thank you all from the bottom of my heart for loving and caring not just about me but one another. This support group saved my life the first 6 - 7 months out and regardless of how life happens, I will never forget my way back to encourage and be encourage by all of you.

May God bless and keep you and always know that I am here for you. my personal email is virtuouswoman362@gmail.com. Please feel free to reach out and I will respond as often as I can.

Be blessed

Aww sweetie, I've been a bit out of the loop, from having a hysterectomy..but I'm here! Reading your post, touched my heart, along with you other sweet ladies!!

I guess my input is, we all can go thru depressing, challenging times,but added to the weight loss issue,and surgery..it just seems to magnify our emotions at times.

God is looking down on all of you..He only doles out these challenges, rough patches, to those he knows, can handle them, and get thru them, and find that sunshine, that pot of gold, at the other end!!

I am normally not super religious, but yet I'm spiritual....And just speak from my heart..

May you all rise above the darker days,knowing that you will see the light, at the end of the tunnel...

I , along with your other friends, and support system, are here for you!

Much love...

Boo