This is not really advice for anyone, but I need advice. When I tell few friends or family about my decision to have weight lost surgery. I get many different reaction. The most concern I get, they tell me you know so and so die from that surgery or some peopl had many complication or gain their weight back. That comment scares me the most. I am Christian and every decision I make I try to be lead by Jesus, however we all miss the mark sometimes. I been seeking direction from God about two years now, since I started to gain a lot weight again. Like many of you, I have been on every diet known to man and made some up my self. I believe this is answer I been searching for. I am the biggest I ever been. I am not sure if I will be able to have the surgery this year it may have be next year due to my insc. requirements. How did you handle the negative remarks? I do try not to tell to many people I am going to have weight lost surgery.

I didnt tell anyone for that reason....I told my parents my husband and two of my best friends and head of my HR dept. THATS IT! of course your going to get the people died and had complications well theres people who die from being overweight and the complications and restrictions that go along with that EVERYDAY.....so I weighed out my options and instead of dying from heat attack, stoke or anything else weight related Im going to either die when god takes me from something else or die trying to be healthy...I refuse to let what ANYONE thinks hold me back any longer from being healthy....

You are the ONLY one that knows what to do when it comes to yourself...I hope you find peace of mind and make the choice thats right for you :) take care.

Thank You!!! Good comment!!!

My surgery is scheduled for 6/4...soon! And I haven't told a lot of people. I have a huge family and big circle of friends, and I've only told ten or so people. They have all been great. I know there are people who wouldn't be so supportive and I won't tell them until after the fact because this isn't about them, it's about me. I know that this surgery is the best tool for my success at a healthy life and that's all I need to know. I am incredibly informed and I don't need someone else's negative thoughts or stress to interfere. They might mean well, but it isn't their life. They aren't carrying abound my 100+ extra pounds!

Thank You!! Amen Sister

It doesn't matter what other people think. It only matters what you think. I'm not an overly religious person but I'm pretty sure everything we know, including all medical procedures, comes in some aspect from the creator. If you have searched your heart and this feels right, don't let ignorant comments by others change your path.

I opted to be open about my surgery. Everyone knows and I've had lots of comments like those. I usually just say something like "Thanks for your concern. I'll let you know how it turns out."

You want to be healthy. This is a tool available. Look long term. Read some of the amazing posts by people who have reclaimed their lives and imagine you writing yours at 100 pounds down or 150. Don't give up.

I shared my decision with just my family and no one else until it was all said and done. Even some of my family gave me some issues about it. What it came down to is I did my research, i had tried and tried on my own to lose alot of weight and i was finally tired of the struggle.....most of all I did some soul searching and knew it was the right decision. I felt there was more of a danger to me continuing to be overweight than there was with having the surgery. I have not had too many issues since the surgery....only problems have been some stomach pain that is taken care of by taking omeprazole everyday, making sure I drink enough can be a challenge but is getting better and of course food intolerance at times. I eventually told the negative people that i was standing by my decision, I was reclaiming my life :)

I wouldn't let other people make life decisions for me. I have been wanting to have WLS for years. I have several friends who have had it done, some with complications and some without any at all. Like you, I prayed for guidance. I told my fiance if the Lord blessed me with insurance that would cover my surgery I am going for it. The only thing I have paid for out of pocket are my Nut visits. God has truly blessed me. I have blasted it from the rooftops LOL. I am having WLS!! For everyone that has something negative to say, I simply tell them to carry my 370+ pounds, have high blood pressure and CHF. y bones are tired of this weight and I am tired of swallowing all of those pills! Good luck!

My surgery isn't until July 25th, and I have chosen not to tell many people. My immediate family members know and are very supportive, as are the three or four close friends I've told. I told my supervisor, even though I didn't have to, and she promised not to tell anyone but then told HER supervisor LOL. I'm just hoping she keeps her mouth shut. I just don't want the horror stories and I also don't want everyone watching every bite I put into my mouth when I go back after surgery. I've been losing weight on my own since Feb., and I'll only be gone for two weeks, so I don't think people at work will be shocked and figure out what I did right away. To each their own. :)