I am so sorry for what you are going through. I know the feeling of being tired and overworked taking care of the house and the kids and critters. Is there some physical reason why your husband can't take care of himself? If not may I suggest you just take a day off and let him know that it's his day to care for the kids, house and critters because you need a day for yourself. Then drive off and go somewhere. If he is anything like my husband all it's going to take is a few hours of demanding children and a look at your list of things you accomplish each day and he will be overwhelmed.

I'm so sorry you're having such a time of it all! Maybe it's time your hubby takes on some of the duties...?

You say "my body is gross"... Are you talking about the after effects of surgery and loose skin?

I'm still preop, so take this with a grain of salt... But what i hear here is there are 2 ways to deal with this issue...

1. Have surgery to have it removed
2. Love yourself, the thinner and healthier you, just the way you are, and cut yourself some slack.

If its not this... Then stop and take a deep breath. Let some of the chores go... Reprioritize stuff and if some things don't get done, well... The world WILL keep turning...

Most of all... Be nice to yourself. You deserve it!

There comes a point with working out where you get diminishing returns. Unless you are training for a body-building competition and consuming enough protein to build up your muscles, you are probably doing more damage than good.

It sounds like your marriage is having problems - very common after GBS. I recommend taking an hour or two a week and seeing a counselor/therapist instead of working out more.

Why do you think your body is gross?? You look beautiful!! If the issue is excess skin, exercise can't fix that, only plastic surgery can.

Hang in there. Please take care of yourself...you are worth it!!

JJ

I have to agree with JJ I have heard any workout over a specific period of time can have negative results because you will start burning muscle after a certain point, muscle needs to rest in order to get the best results. I used to teach aerobics, before I had hip problems/arthritis and gained all my weight...The best workout Video I have seen was the Firm, you can look it up online but they use different techniques than just doing cardio. You need to weight lift and let your muscles rest too. That is why weight lifters will work on different parts of the body each day. Don't put too much on your shoulders you will gain weight if you are too stressed too, there has to be a balance. Maybe its time for a family meeting to delegate some duties :shrug:...Best Wishes

Hey there.

I can understand the feeling you may be having about your body. Especially if your husband is not supportive. My dh tried. He was supportive with the daily chores and my care. But on an intimate level that was different.

For most of my 2 1/2 yrs post op I have felt pretty poorly about my body.

Is counseling an option?

Remember that you did this for you and to be healthy. But with this change comes a lot of baggage that we have to work through.

Don't hit the gym 2x a day. You and your dh need to really talk.

Good luck,
Rochelle

my husband thinks I am beautiful, We are training for my first 5k and I do both cardio and weights.. I think my body is gross because of the skin.. He dose not care and can't keep his hands off me.. I am blessed there.
I was emotional when I wrote this and feeling very over whelmed. My main issues is getting help with everything else and today it all came crashing down. I am sorry I vented, But thank you for all your kind words. They helped more then you know! I need to find a balance and have everyone else in this house help me more.. I did not got to the gym today and eat way to much.. I also did nothing but some laundry. I just needed some down time

I'm sorry that your husband told you to workout twice a day...you do a lot around the house to have the time to work out twice. It is ok to vent here. Everyone needs to do that from time to time. I know the loose skin can be a problem as I am starting to notice on myself. Keep your head up. Accept yourself for the accomplishments you have made. Best wishes to you. debby