It is amazing how parents think they are helping and get you excited for the positive attention from them and then WHAM.. they are off to their old tricks. I am sure your parents meant well, but old habits of selfishness are hard to break and it sounds like your parents have always put their activities first. It does not mean they do not care, but they are oblivious to your needs at times. It is funny how parents can keep shocking us even when we know their true nature. Just take the positives and try to let go of the negatives. They are the only parents you have and it is obvious they love you and wanted to be there to protect and support you as you go through this lifestyle change. I hear what you are saying. Keep venting and do this for you. IT will be worth it in the end. Best of luck with all. PS. You may want to slip and forget to tell your parents when your next appointment is going to be. HAHA.

I agree with lucky. Don't tell them when your appointments are. They are in your business too much. I didn't tell anyone but my hubby and kids. Didn't want to hear all the negativestuff either. As a mother I know they care but seems to me like when they retired they didn't know what to do with themselves so you and your sister aare it. Their entertainment

I feel you even now I sometimes want to choke my husband when he wants to stop at my fav places to get something to eat. Or comes out and sits next to me eating junk. Hang in there.

Thank you all

As someone who has lost her parents, my mom at age 55 and my dad at age 60, I WISH my parents were still around to bug me. They're probably bored, concerned, and want to know everything. I don't know if I would want my parents at all my appointments but they love you and want to know everything. I know because I was 900 miles away when my daughter had her surgery and I WISH I could have been there to bug her the way your parents are bugging you!

As far as the eating, my husband doesn't get it either alot of the time, the other part of the time he's playing "Mother Hen" over me. I know he's doing it because he cares but sometimes he drives me nut. Like I was just eating lunch and he said, "Chew chew chew baby". I rolled my eyes and said, "Yes dear". LOL

Tell your parents that you need to do things on your own and there are some things about your surgery that you want to keep to yourself. Tell them that you'll share with them what you want them to know.

My husband and grandson that I'm raising still have to eat and many times they go to McDonalds, Burger King, Pizza Hut, DQ, while I'm with them. They usually get it to go. I know that what I'm doing for me is for ME and I don't even mind them eating things that I can't have.

Actually I just bought my husband a cheesecake and my grandson some cupcakes a few hours ago.

Be firm with your parents but try to be understanding. Good luck to you. As for you having two protein shakes and then a meal at night, are you sure that's written in stone? I was able to have my meal mid day if I wanted.

Laurie

I'm kind of glad you posted this... I was so grouchy yesterday... I'm really working hard on controlling my eating... So yesterday hubby was going to the grocery store near noon... I encouraged him to take his meds with him and get a bite to eat while he's out... Sometimes I don't even want to smell food... Dear sweet hubby... he did the shopping and then he went to the Sonic... got me a diet limeade... and... got himself a burger and tots... brought it into the bedroom where I was watching tv and proceded to sit there and eat... I held my tongue... till I asked him to tell me how many calories are there (I can't see to read the label) in this cream of chicken soup per serving... 70... ok then if I want to eat the whole can... so I figure and say out loud but he's not listening... 2 1/2 servings per can... that's 175 calories... Yeah that would be okay... no no wait... its not 70 calories you have to figure by serving... maybe you shouldn't eat this.... You know... I don't need or want him to figure this for me... and I resent like hell his bringing that hamburger home and eating it in front of me... He doesn't have a problem with weight control and he doesn't get it and sometimes I want to slap him up side the head... There I feel all better now... GRRRRRRRRRR Anyway thank you for sharing because I too needed to let this hurt and anger out... because I do feel all that and more and I know you understand... Folks... please... this is hard... don't make it harder... i think I'd tell them... or show them this post and the various responses... It can't be any more hurtful than they are being when they don't think about why they might want to restrict their eating in front of you...

Laurie sorry for your loss:-( I do know I'm lucky she is trying realllly hard to be supportive. I do understand there are people with no parents and then there are people surrounded in negativity even coming from there own family when deciding to have the surgery. And I'm sure at one point I'll be abel to sit there as they eat and be perfectly okay.... Just not yet :-)~ not today! :-)~ I do feel way better
:-) I ment to post way more then what came up last time. I saw the doctor and he was really excited on how good I'm doing. Lost 6lbs since last week:-) Said every thing is on track just keep it up. LoL he seemed sooooo excited. He actually said I can have another protein shake or drink(and I was shocked the ones they sale at the office are great)if I want and if I'm ever feeling weak on the diet feel free to e-mail nutritionist at any time. My nerves are fading away and I'm becoming almost giddy with excitement :-)~

OMG im so glad you posted this... My mom has been in my corner from day one but sometimes i she is trying to be helpful but i feel like she is being to pushy! I am glad im not the only one who is feeling this way...

I wish I could say I understand where your coming from but Im all alone out here on the other side of the coast...Just my hubby and I so Im a lil jealous of you hahaha I say that only because I wish I had my parents here with me going thru this but then again if I did would I still feel that way.....Just know they mean well and sometimes you just have to be thankful that they are there vs not being there at all....I know its easier said than done....its just a thought :)

Have a great day and YAY for the shopping therapy I cant wait to actually enjoy shopping!

Parents. You gotta love them. My mom is far enough away that she pretty much leaves me alone. She was never much of support when growing up and when she saw me at CHristmas she had a fit because she thought I was too SKINNY! She kept telling me to eat something. After I fixed my plate with some veggies, and meat I took it too her and showed her that I do EAT!
My husband loves subway. Tonight was a crazy night and I had excerize after work so I was running very late. I stopped at subway and bought his fav sub. I picked up a cup of soup and came home. I "stole" two meatballs out of his sub and he never figures this out!! Happens everytime. Just more protein. and the soup. At 21 months out I know what I can have and what works for me. I am over the "I can't haves" I am so happy with the new me I don't want that other stuff any more. If I think I want something. I check it out on my food diary to see if a bite of something will work. If I can, I do, if not, I don't.
Good Luck,
JILL

My parents live next door yes next door. I go CRAZY with wanting my privacy.
My dad just walks in in the middle of my half a cup dinner and wants to sit and talk about stressful stuff for a HOUR while I'm hungry and having to wait for him to finish venting, did I mention he just walks in...
I love them both