I never knew anything about gambling till a few months ago, I say boyfriend but yesterday we broke up, mostly my decision because he can’t see he needs help and I feel so helpless . I suffer with depression and have for years and I know you can’t tell someone who gambled just to stop because it’s not how it works, just the same as telling a depressed person to stop being so down!
He is in a lot of debt and that never bothered me when I found out, but when we met I thought he had overcome the gambling, but for the 5 months we were together I don’t think he was ever over it. He has been gambling for ten years, countless loans , opening accounts to buy items to then sell on, getting a second phone contract just to sell the phone on.
All I wanted was for him to get help with it and I would stick by every step of the way but he said seeing a professional won’t helo as he has tried it before, I don’t think he saw the correct person and it was only a few times when he did. He blames me for everything! Saying I’ve not stood by him, thinking I’m leaving him for someone else, saying I don’t listen to him, I ignore him and talk over him and so does everyone else, it upsets me so much that he says this as I’ve always listened when he talks to me about anything.
When he does gamble he won’t talk to anyone and hides away for days , only going to work.
I now feel like a let down, he didn’t seem to care much that we broke up and has said some really hurtful things, but I care so much for him and I am worried about him.
i wish someone could tell me he will agree to help and want me in his life.
I have tried to post on here several times and I just can barley move my fingers to type. My depression is at an all time high. I hate myself and wish I were dead. I will not kill myself but feel I am resigned to a life of toal misery. I am meserable 24 hours a day. Is it the withdrawl from gambling or is it that my brain just dosen't work the way it should. I feel there is no hope. I...
I made my last bet on Nov 8, 2014. It is amazing to me now, because I hardly think about gambling now, and I remember when I walked into therapy in Oct of 2014 I could not stop thinking of gambling. I was suicidal and I did not think I could stop. It took me three weeks of therapy to actually stop gambling. I was miserable for the next three months, but I knew i was more miserable gambling....