I never knew anything about gambling till a few months ago, I say boyfriend but yesterday we broke up, mostly my decision because he can’t see he needs help and I feel so helpless . I suffer with depression and have for years and I know you can’t tell someone who gambled just to stop because it’s not how it works, just the same as telling a depressed person to stop being so down!
He is in a lot of debt and that never bothered me when I found out, but when we met I thought he had overcome the gambling, but for the 5 months we were together I don’t think he was ever over it. He has been gambling for ten years, countless loans , opening accounts to buy items to then sell on, getting a second phone contract just to sell the phone on.
All I wanted was for him to get help with it and I would stick by every step of the way but he said seeing a professional won’t helo as he has tried it before, I don’t think he saw the correct person and it was only a few times when he did. He blames me for everything! Saying I’ve not stood by him, thinking I’m leaving him for someone else, saying I don’t listen to him, I ignore him and talk over him and so does everyone else, it upsets me so much that he says this as I’ve always listened when he talks to me about anything.
When he does gamble he won’t talk to anyone and hides away for days , only going to work.
I now feel like a let down, he didn’t seem to care much that we broke up and has said some really hurtful things, but I care so much for him and I am worried about him.
i wish someone could tell me he will agree to help and want me in his life.
Three and one half years ago I was miserable, suicidal, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and financially bankrupt. My life was empty and meaningless. But somehow a tiny part of me realized I wanted to live and I wanted to be done with tears, fears and misery. The gambling treatment program, a great counselor, GA, and many tools and friends helped me to face the mess, deal with the monsters in...