Gambling Addiction & Recovery Support Group
Compulsive gambling is an urge or addiction to gamble despite harmful negative consequences or a desire to stop. A preferred term among many professionals is problem gambling, as few people described by the term experience true compulsions in the clinical sense of the word. Problem gambling often is defined by whether harm is experienced by the gambler or others rather...
I only gamble on roulette in casinos.
I go because I am lonley and because when my mum wqs alive I wantd to make money to find a cure. I had a mindset where I knew my limits and i studied the science behind the roulette. I started to win alot and i never showed nay emotion when i lost or won becuase I saw that this is how people get addicted to it.
I kept tryign to win more and more, and I would even see other gamblers loose everything, and some win milions.
I Was gambling upto 10 k a month loosing and winning, up anddown,, taking loans, using my saving, and my wages.
I also gambled because I was alone, and no one ever called me. I Was depressed and I was also determined to make a lot of money so I could get by being lonley.
after 5 years of gambling and and after loosing all my money I tried to stop,, my focus would not be on the science anymore and just on luck. i was lucky that I had ajob and an income. now I live abroad and live 10 mins away from the closest casino where I have been a few times. Since my mother died my gambling has been reduced as that was one of the reasons I was gambling.
I dont like my job either, and when i gambled and walked out of the casino making more money than I would from my job i even sawit as a income.
I think I need a job which requires me to focus intensley and and take risks like a stock broker. but this is too coplicated for me to retrain, also deal woth lonleyness and depressions and my dr says i could have autism, but maybe I trained my emotions to not resond to gambling so thats why he says i am autistic.
when you loose all your money you feel it physically, because gambling is a very easy way to loose money. waking up and going to work ans grinding and using your mind,, all that money you saved was worth nothing.. i could have brought a house or nice car..
but when you have no friends buying things seems irrevelant. why do i need a car or a house or a life,, i have no friends and i am not enjoying life so even if i loose it all at least i did it gambling and not on drugs or having it stolen from me.
I Also contacted many escort agencies and gave specific requests, but none of them could do it..
I also went for many massages, and i told them i need a proper shoulder massage ,, and when i padi for it they never did it properley, maybe bacuse of my skin colour?
any way,, where ever i spent money i was never satisfied. i even joined a suggar dady site but all the women were very selfish and could not be nice to me and i did not spend money there,,
all i wanted were good friends. now i have stopped gambling but when i am alone i feel like going. i have time on my hands but nothing ad nobody to fill it with. i tried to get a gf, i tried to get friends, i tried pamper myself, i tried to help people with my money, i lost everything and now i am abroad and luck to have an income which i now plan to save. but.. i dont see why i should even be alive
It takes facing reality, doing what needs to be done and facing the internal feelings to get to where we can deal with all the stuff the world throws at us. We will have to rescue ourselves, become the good parent that is a kind, nurturing, loving, gentle disciplinarian that most of us did not have. We need to first treat ourselves well, in order to teach others how we will be treated.
Secondly, we as addicts have a social deprivation. Friendships are are not whipped up like instant mashed potatoes to be then consumed. They are built with time. Most of us compulsive gamblers ruined many of our friendships by being absent. That is part of why GA is successful, there is an instant group of people that know the pain and misery that gambling can bring. If you really want to quit gambling it is only fair to give GA a full-fledged College try investing your whole heart and soul before you dismiss it. That being said, GA is not for every one.
In order to make friendships it helps to obtain some friendship capital. What have you done lately that worth's talking about? Have you read a good book lately? Seen a play or a concert? Do hike, take photos, or collect anything. Do you travel beyond a 10 mile radius, do you see plays? Do you have a political opinion?
Usually people remain single if they are too desperate to be coupled - the desperation runs people away - other than desperate people. Do you take care and maintain the friendships that you do have? Is there anyone living that is important to you? Have you made them a handmade card lately? Do you visit the ones you love? What do you do to show people you appreciate them. Work on being the kind of person you want to attract. Or work on being the kind, nurturing, healthy person you would like to attract.
I used to feel like you, I got counseling and did a lot of work, changed my lifestyle, my attitude, and how I talk to myself. Now that I am not spending all my time in front of a machine, I keep a gratitude diary, I take classes, I go to the library, I call people, I do artwork, I read things, I go to the movies, I volunteer, I talk to people on the bus, I go to public events, I hike, I bike, I make new friends at least monthly. I am over 60. (I began making more friends when I became friends with myself)