Gambling Addiction & Recovery Support Group
Compulsive gambling is an urge or addiction to gamble despite harmful negative consequences or a desire to stop. A preferred term among many professionals is problem gambling, as few people described by the term experience true compulsions in the clinical sense of the word. Problem gambling often is defined by whether harm is experienced by the gambler or others rather...
i have a question - if you're a gambler and you've experienced this --
why do you leave your loved ones? maybe a partner who supported you through the difficulty, who never really left. Fought for you and with you
- does that mean you are still in active gambling addiction and you don't want any distraction to prevent you from gambling? or is it because you truly want to concentrate on your recovery? if you love your partner why resort to cutting ties?
my ex left me all of sudden for i don't know what reason but i could only guess he was struggling at that time...he was just almost a year in recovery then.. now he still makes his presence felt occasionally, but it has been two years. he confuses me a lot. I wonder if gamblers who truly desire recovery would ask help from partners (well of course apart from the professionals).
thanks.
why do you leave your loved ones? maybe a partner who supported you through the difficulty, who never really left. Fought for you and with you
- does that mean you are still in active gambling addiction and you don't want any distraction to prevent you from gambling? or is it because you truly want to concentrate on your recovery? if you love your partner why resort to cutting ties?
my ex left me all of sudden for i don't know what reason but i could only guess he was struggling at that time...he was just almost a year in recovery then.. now he still makes his presence felt occasionally, but it has been two years. he confuses me a lot. I wonder if gamblers who truly desire recovery would ask help from partners (well of course apart from the professionals).
thanks.
If people go into treatment or counseling because their partner is pushing them, they may never feel motivated from the inside. Attempting to make major life changes with the motivation to appease our partners is at best, a temporary fix. Unless the desire for a different life comes from within, a person is likely to feel resentful and as though they are being controlled, manipulated or are powerless over their own life. These kinds of feelings without honest communication become unbearable leaving fight, flight or freeze as the only alternatives perceived as a way out.
I have seen examples of spouses supporting their partners through treatment many times. The treatment program I attended provided couples counseling and education groups for both the addict and the supporting friends and family members. Process groups help both addicts and non addicts to learn to communicate effectively, learn to be mindful of our own feelings, learn to express feelings, desires, needs and learn to set boundaries.
There are so many dynamics at play in relationships it is impossible to speculate why any one person chooses to exit. Our relationships are often like a mirror reflecting the accumulation of all of our experiences, thoughts, fears, dreams, as well as the unresolved blemishes of our early childhood issues.