Hi Georgiagam. You probably know me from the CG site. I like the wife of the CG you called too has called it quites in my marriage. But I can tell you it is not the end. It really is just the beginning. The beginning of my husband facing his 'demons' alone and allowing God to do what He is going to do without me enabling husband (which I did unknownly for 10 years until it was too late).


I pray you are a source of encouragement to many. While I do not have a 'testimony' (yet) of God turning around our situation, I do know I serve a God who is not taken by surprise by anything we humans do on this earth.

I would like to post on here Gam-Anons 12-steps. I think it will be helpful... what say you?

thanks and God bless. debby

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Hi Georgiaham. You probably know me from the CG site. I, like the wife of the CG you called, too has called it quits in my marriage (after tyring for 17 years; 10 of which husband has been in the throws of gambling). The divorce is not the end of everything. It really is just the beginning. The beginning of my husband facing his 'demons' alone. And with me being out of the way and no longer enabling him (as I have done for 17 years) God can do as He will with my husband, Roger.

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I just found this site...I'm the wife of a recovering C.G. and wonder about how you're doing today. Please post a reply.

I am to a wife a a gambler. We have now been seperated for over 1 month and my heart is broken, My husband also has the support of hhis family who look at me like I am the badd one. I am so lonely and heartbbroken. Find it hard to do anything

@suzyggg & wendywte33, hi. I and young son are doing well. I had gone thru enough retries when still married to gambler husband that by time we divorced I and our son fared through it without much difficulties.

Ex husband and I had separated many times while married because of his behaviors, which I finally recognized stemmed from him being a gambling addict.

When it came to the point I realized our very lives were literarily being destroyed before me with no regardto our son, our future, etc., and I accepted I could not help him, nor change him I was able to let go.

I am not cold-hearted, it hurt and I had lots of struggles, 17 years with someone is a relatively long time.

I began attending alanon-type meetings for me, got busy keeping my yard up, kept working, focused on getting me and our son stable and functional again. I friended up with people who lived me, who did not blame me... We did various things..., nothing, or go to a movie, sit at mall

Next month will be three years. I've set boundaries between me and ex, accepted I did not make him gamble, in otherwords, I am not the cause. AND I finally accepted I could not change him. , talked, cried, went to beach, secluded, read a book, de-secluded. More meetings, I even atteded AA meetings, it helprd me u.derstand struggles of an addict - we do not have GA meetings available here.

Too, I found out fast that ex did not die without me. Nope, he survived. He turned to his family and they enabled him until they GOT it and said no more and said, good bye to him. I do not know if ex still gambles, I do not make it my business. He is on his own. He has been more reliable in seeing our son on a biweekend basis. Im glad for son. He loves his dad.

When I stopped looking back - about eight months ago - I began to see the life that is ahead of me. I found out I can't start over, but I can "go on" which for me has been great. Hope is before me. It is not "behind" me.

I'm pretty simple, I like life without chaos, if I want drama, I'll go to a movie; if I want my bank account depleted its because I've dontated to a chosen charity versus someone I love taking it a putting it on a card game.

Life is short, it is a gift, I am enjoying each day as it comes.

So sorry to hear that your husband didn't stop gambling (maybe he hasn't reached his bottom yet) but glad that you're not still blaming yourself for his disease. We can't change anyone but ourselves. Also glad that he is continuing to have a relationship with your son. Wishing you both the best in life.