Fragile X Syndrome Support Group
Fragile X Syndrome is the most common inherited cause of mental retardation, and is associated with autism. The fragile X syndrome is a genetic disorder caused by mutation of the FMR1 gene on the X chromosome. Mutation at that site is found in 1 out of about every 4000 males and 1 out of about every 6000 females.
I'm sure the geneticist will be able to clear things up for you when you meet. You are a carrier, but that does not always mean fertility problems (obviously, that has not been your case) but it is something that many carriers face, sometimes not until they are a bit older. In simplified terms, only half of your eggs are affected because you have two X chromosomes. Also, in simplified terms only about 20% of carriers go though "early menopause" You could have passed carrier status to some of your other children, so it would be a good idea for them to be tested before they plan their own families. There is also the chance your daughters could have a full Fragile X mutation and just have virtually no symptoms.