Foster Care Support Group
Foster care is a system by which a certified, stand-in parent(s) cares for minor children or young peoples who have been removed from their birth parents or other custodial adults by state authority. Responsibility for the young person is assumed by the relevant governmental authority and a placement with another family found.
Today marks 11 months since we've had J, today I recieved an email from our worker asking for our health insurance cards. We have been fostering now for 17 months this month, and have never been asked for these. We are military, so we have Tricare for health insurance. Our worker said, that because we are a pre-adoptive family they need it in our file. My question is, could this be heading towards an adoption or something else?
deleted_user
My husband and I are foster-to-adopt and I do recall having to submit insurance cards back when they did our initial home-study. Could it be they are updating your file? You'd think they'd tell you if something like an adoption was in the works. Has your caseworker mentioned adoption at all before?
JenP98
We were never asked for our personal insurance cards intially. I'm not sure what it means and I surely do not want to look more into it you know. Our worker will say things like, "if you end up adopting her", but never straight out. Pretty much everyone involved has always leaned towards adoption, seems like it's a loss cause with the parents. 11 months later and the father hasn't done anything, nearly 6 months later after mom gets out of jail, she still hasn't done anything on the perm plan as well. They have no drive to do anything to get her back, they want her to just be handed back without them having to do anything.
deleted_user
Yeah, hard to say what they need them for. I can relate to the adoption stuff, we've had our caseworker bring up the topic of adoption with 3-4 different children and nothing happens. I just take that stuff with a grain of salt. So many things change, the parents drag stuff out, the courts, etc. Until it's on paper, TPR is done and a judge signs off - it's all speculation! It's frustrating I know. In our training, I recall them talking a lot about those permanent placement agreements, how after 1 yr. in the system they have to have something agreed upon...at least in my state they do, but I've seen plenty of cases where the kids have been in care for 1-1/2 to 2 years and there's still no plan to reunite or terminate either one
deleted_user
I don't know what state you're in, but please tread lightly and cautiously. Even though Mom and Dad may have done nothing on the plan to get her back, a biological relative may come out of the woodwork at some point. I have had friend who took babies from the hospital who never had contact with biological relative (who were give the option of taking the child) for two or three years, and right before all rights were to be severed and the child was to be adopted, they requested custody. DCF would call and tell the foster parent to have the child ready to go with no warning or transition. Until the day you walk into court to formalize the adoption, you always need to prepared.
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