Foster Care Support Group
Foster care is a system by which a certified, stand-in parent(s) cares for minor children or young peoples who have been removed from their birth parents or other custodial adults by state authority. Responsibility for the young person is assumed by the relevant governmental authority and a placement with another family found.
I have been in the system for over two years now and it sucks. I hate it. So many people are involved in my lame existence but it seems like no one really cares or wants to be there. I am so tired of social workers that try to be my friend, tell me that they want to know how I'm really doing, then share all of our confidential conversations with EVERYONE! And then the foster parents that do it for the money... GRRR! Any ideas?
deleted_user
i hear what your saying but in a different way....im 17 an been in system for 18months. been with the same carers all along and although we had ups and down it has been preety much brill...however we have recently recieved some demanding children and i just feel so shut out and alone...nobody cares about me anymore...there is my social worker...my therapist...my tutor at college and my carers...they all the me i they are there for me but when i need them they are never there anymore...everyone else is too wrapped up in their own worlds to notice me anymore...and when i ask 4 help i get told...your 17 now u need to prepare for inderpendance you need to cope on your own....but i cant cope on my own...i stopped cuttin in june last year...only i have actually been cutting myslef since december agian...and no1 has even noticed...have been to hosp 22times (since dec)..and cos of my age hosp dont need to tell my carers...but they too wrapped up in their own worlds to even wonder where i keep going for 4/5 hours...i just tell em im with friends and they belive me...they dont care anymore...just feels there are so many people involved in my life but none of them are listening to what i want/need
deleted_user
Hey, I'm sorry it sucks. I think maybe you have something inside of you that you don't see yet. It's strength. and vulnerability. and love. I know this because you're taking steps to get support and help and I think that you'll keep doing that. And I think that you're going to be ok. It's going to be tough, but I think you're going make it.
deleted_user
I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time in foster care. I am a new foster parent of 1 year .. and I love it. I am most definately not in it for the money, and I actually come up short because I have a daycare and I keep 3 spots open just for fostering. But I would do it for free ! I have had pretty good experiences with the kids I have had placed in my home. Advice I would give, coming from the other side is that if you have foster parents that are willing to love you and care for you please give them the chance. I know that I had problems with one teenager we had placed with us because no matter how hard we tried to include her and bond with her she was too busy creating unneccesary drama and pushing us away. I think that with alot of foster kids, they have been thru so much and dealt with so many people that don't care, that when somebody comes along that really does it makes it hard for them to accept it. If you are unhappy maybe they could move you to a new home. For each person that does not care or does it for the cash, there are other ones that would love to welcome you into their home ! Keep your head up !
deleted_user
I am sorry to hear that your support system is so low. Yes you have to prepare for Independence but you need support.
dbrunson
Hi I just joined this site today and is a single mother of a 17 yr old daughter..I am getting my license today to become a foster parent. I have been reading a lot of post from here all day and have been in tears from most..I have read a few of your posting if u don't mind sharing this I would really appreciate it..Where do u live? and how old r u? are u currently happy wear u live?.. from reading some of your comments u seemed to be very smart and intelligent and u can share a lot of input for us new comers I luv to hear from u. Also I don't no ur situation and where u are religious wise but I am praying for u and that u be successful in all that u do!
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