Foster Care Support Group
Foster care is a system by which a certified, stand-in parent(s) cares for minor children or young peoples who have been removed from their birth parents or other custodial adults by state authority. Responsibility for the young person is assumed by the relevant governmental authority and a placement with another family found.
ok... little about us.. my husband an I have three grown children... we have had custody of our gson for 9 years he's 10... we have adopted a fam member after having her from birth to 2 then again from 3 1/2 years later until we adopted her at age 7... she is 11... April if 2016 my God daughter who could not have children took custody of a distant family member on July 4 she left her with is (due to unforseen circumstances) we took custody of her for what was suppose to be temperaely... CPS was adamant that biomom was doing well and would regain custody... long story short mom stopped working her program and case was closed and we are permenent placement... mom has 1st and 3rd Saturday supervised visits for 2 hours... under the condition she notifies me by 6pm the Friday before to confirm... The Issue: several time bio mom has missed visits by just not contacting me... or contacted me the day of canceling or changing Saturdays... I have been accommodating for her when I can.. I have grand children the like to come for the weekend and I have my 10&11 year old that plays ball, cheers, has birthday parties etc... I always Keep her Saturdays open until 6pm Friday after that I assume she isn't going to make visit and make other plans... so biomom had a visit confirmed two weeks ago and canceled the day of... then she asked to visit the next weekend at her other daughters birthday ( she doesn't had custody of any of her children) so I agreed... even though it wasn't her weekend... however it was planed at a park and we got tstorms from TS Cindy and I had to say sorry we can't make it... but told her her regular visit was this weekend.. so she never confirmed yesterday so At 9pm I allowed my two grand children to come for the weekend... guess what... she messages me about 30 minutes ago admitting she didn't confirm like she was suppose to but could she still have visit... now I could leave my grands with my husband and go on visit but what is that doing to prevent this from happening over and over again? I am already giving her next weekend because we are going to be out of town on her weekend.. so I am torn between just giving her visit and teaching her responsibilitily... I tend to be on the mothering side and make her suffer the consequences for her actions... if she were my daughter ther would be no question about it... opinions please!