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I met someone on a sex site. After chatting for only a day, I went to his place for a few hours this morning. It was fantastic. He says he wants to make it an ongoing thing and I hope he does. In fact, I would go back tomorrow. The thing is, I am married. I also went to the home of a strange man who could have been dangerous for all I knew. The sex was unprotected. He told me he has had a vasectomy and that he is clean. I took his word for it.
The thing is, if I had it to do over again, I probably would do the same thing, notwithstanding that hindsight is 20/20.
I have become a serial cheater. There have been two other men in the past 8 months or so. I had unprotected sex with both of them. Before that, my affairs were emotional or online (bad enough, I suppose).
Is there an epiphany...some kind of knock on the head that makes you realize that you can't keep doing this? I have no guilt. I have urges that I can't satisfy with my husband or with toys. I know I am playing with fire and I WILL get burned. How do I get to the point that I don't want to do this?
The thing is, if I had it to do over again, I probably would do the same thing, notwithstanding that hindsight is 20/20.
I have become a serial cheater. There have been two other men in the past 8 months or so. I had unprotected sex with both of them. Before that, my affairs were emotional or online (bad enough, I suppose).
Is there an epiphany...some kind of knock on the head that makes you realize that you can't keep doing this? I have no guilt. I have urges that I can't satisfy with my husband or with toys. I know I am playing with fire and I WILL get burned. How do I get to the point that I don't want to do this?
cindy666
I think there is something empty and rotten within me that I feel no guilt, no remorse...
johnnycake
Most addicts will not quit until the consequences become unbearable.
cindy666
I am going through a sort of withdrawal today. Wondering if my lover will text me (I have no idea if he can see me today or not). I feel antsy and agitated. So far resisting the urge to text him a suggestive message, but it isn't easy. It is a beautiful spring day and I am getting almost nothing done...sex consumes my thoughts...
uptownmom
Cindy, I understand the lack of remorse. I was able to compartmentalize my sexual appetite from the rest of my life for a few years....and the internet just makes it so easy to actually act out on what might have only been fantasy in years past. Let me just say three letters you should think about HPV. It is so out there, and I caught it while I was out cheating. There are plenty of things to catch out there, but HPV is probably the most likely. And beyond STDs.....going to a stranger's place (as you mentioned) could simply cost you YOUR LIFE. Please think.....please think about your safety. This is an addiction that is very difficult to beat....we are here for you!!
cindy666
Thanks, uptownmom, I continue to see the 'AFF guy'. He makes me feel really good when I am there and is affectionate and caring, so I kid myself that he really cares on some level. I am sorry that you caught HPV. Be sure to have your PAP tests (I'm sure you know that)! I am very odd, in that I was very sexually active before my marriage and I am again now and I always fretted about STDs and constantly looked for signs that I had one. I just never let it change my behaviour.
cindy666
i don't know what will change it...:(
deleted_user
I know what you mean, I have doing the same things, I don't know how to stop it and I don't feel guilty. I have lost my marriage already and still I cant stop. I have done some really crazy things and it makes me feel good afterwards. I just don't know what to do
deleted_user
I know that I am late to join, and not sure if anyone is out there even listening in this group anymore. I was a serial cheater when I was married. Things only got worse after divorce. Sometimes it is an all consuming thought. Always looking for that next sexual fix.
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