Food Addiction Support Group
An individual suffering from a food addiction disorder frequently experiences episodes of uncontrolled eating, or binging, during which they may feel frenzied or out of control. They will eat much more quickly than is normal, and continue to eat even past the point of being uncomfortably full. Binging in this way is generally followed by a period of intense guilt feelings...
Here's what I'm thinking: you have to want it, really bad. You have to WANT to overcome this addiction - and for the right reasons. Wrong reasons include: for your boyfriend or wife or someone else; to look like an anorexic, air-brushed model; because you feel you should but don't really want to; because somebody is pushing you to do it.
There's lots of wrong reasons.
But what about the right reasons?? I mean, overcoming any addiction is really crazy hard! I can't imagine any of us will succeed unless we're doing it for the right reasons.
I was really good for months, all summer. I lost 20 lbs. Then, something crazy-stressfull happened (I have a serious medical problem). Some test results came back, and the doctor called me at home, and I freaked out.
And I ate.
I'm not sure how much I've gained. It's gotta be at least 10 pounds.
I think of all the hard work I did over the entire summer, how I counted calories every day and watching other people enjoy their hotdogs, and how I biked and worked out when I did not feel like it, and it's seriously discouraging to realize that, after all that, I've probably gained half of it back, so quickly.
Argh. Well, I'm going to focus on something better - like the fact that I probably have still lost 10 lbs!
I'm going to step on the scale tomorrow morning, and I'm going to start fresh.
And I'm going to do it for the RIGHT reasons.
For me, the RIGHT reasons are:
1. Because I want to.
2. Because I want to feel healthy.
3. Because I want to have more energy.
4. Because I want to look better.
5. Because I want to live longer.
6. Because I want to take pride in my body.
7. Because I want to feel at home in my body.
8. Because I want to feel/be graceful.
9. Because I want to be a healthy weight.
10. Because I am in less pain (physically) when not binge-eating.
11. Because it it not a healthy way to deal with my emotions.
12. Because I don't want to carry the legacy of my childhood
around with me forever (I think I learned to binge-eat when I
was a kid - very abusive childhood, and the only way I knew
how to comfort and soothe myself was to eat).
Well, that's all I can think of.
What are your right reasons??????
There's lots of wrong reasons.
But what about the right reasons?? I mean, overcoming any addiction is really crazy hard! I can't imagine any of us will succeed unless we're doing it for the right reasons.
I was really good for months, all summer. I lost 20 lbs. Then, something crazy-stressfull happened (I have a serious medical problem). Some test results came back, and the doctor called me at home, and I freaked out.
And I ate.
I'm not sure how much I've gained. It's gotta be at least 10 pounds.
I think of all the hard work I did over the entire summer, how I counted calories every day and watching other people enjoy their hotdogs, and how I biked and worked out when I did not feel like it, and it's seriously discouraging to realize that, after all that, I've probably gained half of it back, so quickly.
Argh. Well, I'm going to focus on something better - like the fact that I probably have still lost 10 lbs!
I'm going to step on the scale tomorrow morning, and I'm going to start fresh.
And I'm going to do it for the RIGHT reasons.
For me, the RIGHT reasons are:
1. Because I want to.
2. Because I want to feel healthy.
3. Because I want to have more energy.
4. Because I want to look better.
5. Because I want to live longer.
6. Because I want to take pride in my body.
7. Because I want to feel at home in my body.
8. Because I want to feel/be graceful.
9. Because I want to be a healthy weight.
10. Because I am in less pain (physically) when not binge-eating.
11. Because it it not a healthy way to deal with my emotions.
12. Because I don't want to carry the legacy of my childhood
around with me forever (I think I learned to binge-eat when I
was a kid - very abusive childhood, and the only way I knew
how to comfort and soothe myself was to eat).
Well, that's all I can think of.
What are your right reasons??????
All the best and hope your weight gain hasn't been as bad as you imagine.
I want to lose weight because:
I want to be able to move better.
I want to be healthy.
I want to stop feeling like a circus side show
I want to stop having to try and fit into a world that doesn't exist for people like me.
I want to be a person that fits into the world that exists. Period.
I want my husband to be proud of me.
I want to be able to do things with my him.
I want to enjoy life again.
I want to live... my life instead of watching it go by. I only get one shot. So I have to ask myself... what's stopping me from losing weight?
It's been an entire lifetime of developing bad eating habits. Trying to change them is the hardest thing I've ever done. I always say food addiction is the most difficult to overcome. There are coke addicts, and meth addicts... heroine and prescriptions meds. Alcoholism and cigarettes! A person can quit these things and never have them again and still survive. A food addict can't just stop eating food. We have to learn how to make our addiction fit in our lives on a daily basis without going overboard with it. Try and get a heroine addict to only shoot up once a day.... or an alcoholic limit themselves to 2 drinks a day. It's impossible for that to happen.
People have done it though. People like me... that have so much to lose. They've battled their addiction and have won. Look at that young fellow that was on the talk shows... how that personal trainer took him on as his "project"? He lost like 250lbs and looks phenomenal. So it is possible... I wish I had a personal trainer. Personal cheering squad. lol!
1. I want to live long in order to take care of my children, especially for my son who has down's syndrome and is very dependent on me.
2. Have a better sex life with my husband
3. Fit into nicer looking clothes and also easily available clothes (shopping is a nightmare for me as very few types of clothes fit me).
4, Enjoy picnics, rides, theme parks with my kids.
5. Have a better paying career, fit into professional looking clothes.
6. Have a better social life
There are many more reasons, but I guess these are top of my list. I have started the slim fast diet this week, basically replacing one meal a day with the slim fast shake. I have been having headaches within 1 hr or so after having the shake because I am sacrificing my food, especially my carb intake which I am soooo addicted to. I have taking tylenol for the headaches from past 5 days and hoping that the headaches go away once my body is used to the shakes. I am also going to start the gym on monday and hope that I am able to keep up the slim fast diet and the gym and see some positive results with my weight loss and also reduce the addiction to carbs.
Good luck to you too. Take care.
Mel1509 - I know what you mean about food! I have often thought the same thing. My bf is an ex-drug addict and an ex-alcoholic...and, although I realize that any addiction is hard to quit, at least he know he just has to stay away from it 100 percent...
...but we have to learn to control it. We can't just stop eating. That is so much harder, I think. It would be like him, trying to do just 1 line of coke a week! It wouldn't happen, he would get addicted again.
We have to be so strong.
bluejeamb - I love what you said about how we have to be the most important person in our lives. So true. And I think I needed to hear that today - It's my first day of a fresh start, and I need to put myself first, and take care of myself. I'm having huge relationship problems at the moment, and it's so tempting to burry my feelings with food...
....but, if I do that, I won't be putting myself first. I just had a wonderful evening with a good friend, and vented about my relaitonship, and that helped. Now, to make a healthy, low-cal supper, and maybe meditate or something...
...I know that the one thing I CAN'T do is deal with this pain/hurt/anger from my relationship by eating.
Tabskhal - Hmm, I have a headache today. I wonder if the sudden move from tons of sugar and carbs, to a calorie -reduced diet is giving me the headache. And I get migraines, too...so I hope it doesn't turn into one. Yikes. I guess we just have to realize that it'll be hard at first, but worth it in the end. Hope your headaches stop.
PS - I did manage to gain almost 10 pounds. Stepped on the scale today, I'd gained 8 lbs, I think. Ah, well. I wish I hadn't, but I did. Since I lost 20 in the first place, though, that still a loss of 12 lbs.
I'd originally wanted to lose more then 20 though....so, I figure, to get to my healthy weight goal, I now have to lose about 23 lbs. Argh. Oh, well, it'll for sure be worth it - I remember, a couple years ago, I was down to that weight, and it felt really good. I just no longer see the point in going through this short life, feeling ugly and unattractive!
First day is almost over. Yay!
All the best.