Fitness Goals Support Group

This community is dedicated to group support around achieving fitness goals, whatever they may be, through personal training, athletic activites, or other strenuous activity. Whether you are trying to get fit to treat a health problem, boost your mood, relieve stress, or tone your body, this group is a great place to meet other like-minded people who have similar goals.

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spellman1989
spellman1989
Ok I have been trying to lose weight since 2007 and nothing I have done has worked so far. I have bought countless weight loss books and motivation books and so far I can't stay motivated. How does everyone else build and stay motivated if you feel something or someone is holding you back. I can't drop the person who I feel is holding me back because its mainly family related lol. My question is how do I build motivation and determination without letting my depressing life hold me back.
Reckoner
Reckoner
I played minor league baseball out of high school for 4 years. For years after that, I was in playing shape. THEN, I got into a relationship. Little by little, the weight crept up. After 7 years, I was 80 lbs heavier. I had no idea what had happened. We broke up in January of 08. It was after the break up that I realized mentally, I was carrying a lot of issues that really hindered my activity level. Worse, I was an emotional eater. Without a relationship to worry about, and faced with the consequences of basically taking myself for granted, I started working out again. I only mention this because I didnt realize that my relationship held me back. Truth be told, I held myself back, and just used the relationship as the reason. Her problems were mine, and I felt as if I needed to carry them with her. But at the same time, I lost sight of myself. Ironically, she and I had a talk once about my weight gain lol go figure.

Sometimes we need to make time for ourselves. WE HAVE TO. Otherwise, we are useless to others around us. Imagine if you were at your goal weight, or doing the things you wanted to do. How much more positive of an influence could you be for others?

So all I can tell you is MAKE time for yourself. Even if it feels selfish. Because a lot of times, guilt is a crappy friend. Good luck.
Reckoner
Reckoner
Oh, and I dropped the 80 lbs in 6 months LoL But have gained 20 back in the last years after jacking my back up. SO thats where Im at now. Trying to drop the 20.