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I guess I worry a little when the word "toned" is used, because so often it comes along with the mistaken idea that weight-training will make you too big. You can only get as big as you have testosterone for - so most women are not going to get huge simply from lifting.
I would add one more factor to the equation you asked about, that would be diet. Getting the look you want, however you choose to describe it (toned, muscular, shapely, feminine/masculine...) is 10% exercise (cardio and weights) and 90% nutrition. I tend to think that most of my training occurs in the kitchen.