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I am in an abusive relationship, and I am tring to save money to get a divorce and start a new life. I am saving money without my husband knowing. I want to open a savings account, but I am afraid that when we get a divorce a lawyer will be able to find out about my secert savings account and the money would be taken from me. Is there any way my husband can find out about a savings account through a lawyer or some other way. What would be a safe way to keep this money without my husband knowing about it?
deleted_user
A good idea is to rent a safe deposit box at the bank, you will be the only one to have access to it, and you could save your money there, nobody will never know unless you you want they to know.
BlueWytch
Awhile back my sister was trying to leave an abusive relationship. She had my mom open a new account and keep the money for her. I know one company started giving a lady two paychecks. One was her "take home to hubby" pay and the other was 10% of what she made and she put that in savings. Find a trusted friend or a safe place to hide it and good luck!
deleted_user
When I was considering my divorce I went to Chrysaliswomen,org. for some good info. If you have something similar in your area, it may help. I went to a psychologist for depression and she had a women's group , starting the process, in the middle, and finished with the divorce. I hope you find a source that will give you good legal advise.
MDP
I want to say think you to all of you who have responded to my post. I wish you health and happiness.
deleted_user
I think in my state the banks actually have to notify a spouse of any accounts or loans given. They send a letter to the house. Also if you have it in an interest account and get over $11 interest in a year, you have to claim it on taxes. I would just find a safe place for it. Maybe with a friend or relative.
deleted_user
I have had to do this for the same reason. You can get a joint account with someone trusted, like a family member, if oyu trust them enough put it just in their name. But noone will be able to determine who put more into the acct and therefore cannot take that money, at all.
deleted_user
If you really trust someone, ask them to keep your money. In NC, all assets are community property and divided between the parties when they divorce, unless they've signed a pre-nup. I don't know anything about TN. I wish you the best of luck and a speedy departure from your current situation.
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