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Ok... I have 3 kids... to my ex... I am re-married to a man who has only just got his visa to work in Oz... I have been working full-time to support us and to make a future for us.
Yesterday I had this discussion with my ex. He went mental when he found out that I plan to work only a few hours per week when my hubby gets a job He KNOWS I am on about 3 different pain meds and a pain patch thingy. He knows how bad my fibro is. "MY CHILD -SUPPORT WILL SKY ROCKET blah blah... He pays a disgusting amount of 130AUD per MONTH for 3 children and complains about that.
His new wife had a baby with him.. and is pregnant again. [and is only 25 and well) I worked with 2 kids I only stopped working when my 2nd was diagnosed with severe respiratory conditions which made it impossible to send her to day care.
I Feel like yelling.... DON'T HAVE MORE KIDS IF YOU CAN'T SUPPORT THEM>>> AND SINCE WHEN IS IT OK TO GET YOUR EX WIFE WITH AS DISABILITY TO WORK TO SUPPORT ***YOUR**** ORIGINAL KIDS >> WHILE YOUR NEW WIFE SITS ON HER ARSE AND DOES NOTHING ALL DAY WHILE PERFECTLY WELL.... AND PRETTY MUCH CONCEIVES NEW ONES ON PURPOSE THAT YOU DON'T WANT OR NEED> She's 25 and has 2 other kids to 2 other people and doesn't have custody of them. She's never worked a day in her life and is just cruising on his money and pretty much making my life miserable by messing around with child support agency and stuff and then blaming it on me... increases my stress levels... makes me worse.
I always feel like I belong on Jerry Spring when I talk about her.
WTF Can I do about it??? Any ideas etc would be awesome.
Coralie xXx
Yesterday I had this discussion with my ex. He went mental when he found out that I plan to work only a few hours per week when my hubby gets a job He KNOWS I am on about 3 different pain meds and a pain patch thingy. He knows how bad my fibro is. "MY CHILD -SUPPORT WILL SKY ROCKET blah blah... He pays a disgusting amount of 130AUD per MONTH for 3 children and complains about that.
His new wife had a baby with him.. and is pregnant again. [and is only 25 and well) I worked with 2 kids I only stopped working when my 2nd was diagnosed with severe respiratory conditions which made it impossible to send her to day care.
I Feel like yelling.... DON'T HAVE MORE KIDS IF YOU CAN'T SUPPORT THEM>>> AND SINCE WHEN IS IT OK TO GET YOUR EX WIFE WITH AS DISABILITY TO WORK TO SUPPORT ***YOUR**** ORIGINAL KIDS >> WHILE YOUR NEW WIFE SITS ON HER ARSE AND DOES NOTHING ALL DAY WHILE PERFECTLY WELL.... AND PRETTY MUCH CONCEIVES NEW ONES ON PURPOSE THAT YOU DON'T WANT OR NEED> She's 25 and has 2 other kids to 2 other people and doesn't have custody of them. She's never worked a day in her life and is just cruising on his money and pretty much making my life miserable by messing around with child support agency and stuff and then blaming it on me... increases my stress levels... makes me worse.
I always feel like I belong on Jerry Spring when I talk about her.
WTF Can I do about it??? Any ideas etc would be awesome.
Coralie xXx
I went through 12 years of HELL with my ex over kids he didn't want but never missed a chance to make me think he was coming for custody. Life was constant upset in that quarter. I guess I should be thankful he didn't have any more kids.
They want to control... everything. Pricks!
Does he have visitation privileges? Does he expose your kids to his skanky new wife?
Divorce with kids sucks. I wish I had some good advice for you other than to breathe deep and try to ignore them as much as possible. Don't let them make you sick.
You get the idea. What's real?
The dick is still in love with me (wish he'd just get over it) which is why SHE is trying to make life difficult for me/compete with me... and hahaha for her.. in the middle of that convo he also called me "honey" {puke} but she heard it.
:ike I said.... feel like I am on springer when I talk about it.
Coralie XxX
You need to take care of yourself and your kids.
He has an obligation to pay you child support.
If he continues to have children or not, has no effect on his obligation to the children that he has with you.
Just tell him that you are not interested in his problems with his new life...he has children with you, you are ill, he has to help support these children...whatever happens between him and his new life has NO effect on you or his obligations to your children.
Don't let him play games with you or drag you into his dramas with his new family.
Just tell him that you are not interested in hearing any of it because it does not concern you.
He has children...he has to help support them....the rest is his problem
So sorry your having to deal with this.
Gentle hugs, Sherrall
i hope you new husband doesn't have kids he has to pay child support too!
i had a stepfather that tried to rape me befopre my mom married him & told me i had misundersttod=he has eplipsy!
jerk i had to live w/ him for 27yrs till he died! & my x, mrried a alcoholic, so i didn't want my girls to have any didruption in their home=while growing up from a divorced home too!
sorry your going thru this!
healing prayers 7 angels to watch & guide you & those around you!
oxo
paula
tell your ex to get his shit FIXED! tell him to stop freakin breeding if he can't afford it. if he doesn't wanna hear it than thell his wife to get her tubes tied.
i'm planning on getting mine tied, too. no kids for me, no thank you!
My dad was so late on payments and stuff that he paid up to 3yrs after i was 18 to catch up and he was paying hundreds less than other dads were.
He told my mom once that his step kids were as much his kids as me so he had to take care of the ones in his home first.
Don't let him walk over you, keep tough and yell at him if you have too, just make sure the kids don't see you :)
My favorite things was when he devorced his 2nd wife (one he cheated on my mom with) and he had to pay child support for all 3 kids till they were 18 and they weren't his kids :)
Take care of you, keep your cool, don't allow yourself to get involved in his problems. Shelter your children as much as possible and if you can't do that, they will eventually learn what a putz he is on their own. If he wants to be a class ass, that's his problem and don't give him the sympathy he's looking for either. He should learn to keep his "junk" where it belongs or go get that crap snipped.
Always remember one thing, Karma is a BITCH and will come back and bite him in the ass when he least expects it.
(I like the person's comment about the bricks. LMAO)
Take care of you,
Dee
Karma is a bitch- the amount of crap that happens to them- the only problem is ... somehow its always my fault........
example: He has a tape of me cancelling his car insurance 4 months after we broke up...... ONE YEAR LATER he had a car accident hit a BMW...... So he uses this tape to PROVE its my fault that he has no insurance...... and I am like.... welll... "who did you think was paying your insurance for the last year... the insurance fairy?" ....
I don't take that on board but the arse does not see reason and this kind of shite that keeps happening is "affecting his ability to pay".... yes we do go through the authorities with the child support but SHE is messing with them and blaming me.
I'd love to say all those things you guys said to him.. but honestly on the phone I get bamboozled with the latest crap he has come up with that I am supposed to be doing and am like .. "wha....?" at the time. Its probably what makes me angriest.. cos I want to say that stuff but never get the chance. I don't call him unless it is absolutely neccessary.
lol.. I so wish I could think of those things to say at the time! prolly make me feel a whole lot better.
Coralie XxX
What ABOUT her???? He is expecting me to work full-time to pay for his children, why is SHE not expected to do the same? To make their situation better? So he CAn pay what he is supposed to?? .....
Guess I will have to make that point to him at some time... Two feet and a heartbeat.. She can do something!
Coralie XxX