Congrats leaving a abusive relationship, in time you should be more at east and feeling better.

Just take time to breath and relax. Enjoy your new life.

Yes I feel that way sometimes, its depression. I have a great husband and support system and the depression still attacks me. Being here should help you, to know you have so many people on your side. Just make sure no matter how you are feeling to keep reason on your side. Remember nothing that happened in your relationship was your fault, that usually when people don't like you that its because they are jealous or feel threatened by you which means that something about you is Great! As far as our illness goes, I don't think it is that people don't give a damn, I think its just they don't understand or don't know what to do. It sounds like you need a med change, with this damn fibro, I have to change my antidepressant often. Just remember that you are special and to take care of yourself. Hugs.

I'll tell you a secret but don't tell anyone else. I have come to the conclusion that there are 2 types of stress. Productive and Non-productive.

Productive stress is deciding which paint you are going to use on the living room walls. Or, getting caught up with the laundry.

Non-productive stress includes such items as abusive assholes and bitchy coworkers. Things you can not change and causes you too much stress.

It is my goal to eradicate all non-productive stress in my life. If someone treats me wrong or does something that offends me, I eradicate them from my circle. They are not worth me getting upset over.

I have spent all my life trying to make other people happy and it ran me into the ground. I am done pleasing and catering to all able bodied people who can fend for them selves. Go screw.

Some people will be offended by my reasoning. I am not going to apologize for my beliefs. I love every one here and wish you well! XOXO

Your on your way, one step at a time. Relax enjoy the little things, reading, writing, painting what ever you like to do. The ball is now in your park, play by your rules. Do not let the words and actions of others have control over you. Your in control you choose to and when you want to respond. Be good to yourself.

It will take some time to get over this. Doing something brand new might help. For me, it was work. Since you already work, maybe it's exercise or meditation or lunch with good friends once a week or an art activity. If you can do it outside, that's even better. I'm suggesting you change your pattern. Shake things up a bit. Practice reaching for the next positive emotion you can reach. I'm not saying "be happy" or "think positive." I'm suggesting you just reach up one more rung on your emotional ladder. You will come through it.

I have felt that way - but I have found that what you think about you bring about, so I am careful now to keep my self-talk positive.

Congratulations for getting out - I know that was hard - been there. It's particularly hard when your self-esteem has taken a beating. There are plenty of people here to talk to - many of whom have been where you are, to one degree or another. Talk to us.

We'll all be happy to tell you that you are a worthwhile person and that you deserve the best of everything life has to offer - because it's true. You need to learn to love yourself again - and that's not "selfish" as some would think - you have to like/love the person you see in the mirror before you are ready to love anyone else.

Blessings,

Sue

Oh honey I have escaped many abusive realionships. Got beaten have to death a couple of times. So glad you are out. Don't look back! Be very watchful as it is and can be a pattern.
Tell the bitches at work to stay off your butt!
You have friends here honey. You will never be alone.
I can't make you well..but I can send prayers your way...()!
Love Cinda

DDntn, witedove1, jes1421,ReneeAnn, ChaCha1, PeaceN2u, and Poetlost you are all so sweet and it is lucky to hear from you. Update: I have been feeling happier in general when I take care of myself with your suggestions-many thanks