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Hi Guys,
Feel like a rant. I dunno how much people here really know about me. I'm 32, had a divorced.. kids to that arse aged from 7-10 years. My mum died suddenly (at 52) in March and I married my new husband in April. He is awesome :). But anyway... We met on the net and really fell in love... I've been working full time for a year now started to get him here through immigration etc. its actually not easy to move to Australia from the UK like you thhink it would be.
So anyway in January my ass of an ex decided to change his weekends around so we both worked the same weekend... that causes issues with custody etc... cut a loong story short.. work has been out of sync for me since he changed and I work 20 hours the sat and sunday that I have the kids.
Anyway he's moved somewhere thats almost a 3 hour round trip now.
When I worked that out I was in a panic... How the F*** am I supposed to actually spend any time with them, support my family and do that trip
I can barely do a 45 min drive. (Hubby is tryin realhard to get a job so I can work less, and get his drivers license)
Sooo.... only thing I can do, I appealed to my work...
And a woman who is supposed to be my friend.... has blocked my appeal.. it is a direct swap of a weekend, her kids are grown and her hubby doesn't work. it does not change anything for her. What makes it worse... is this woman ALSo claims to have fibro.. (but I swear she has ADHD- when you work with her, there are no rests)... She bends down and checks under all the beds etc.. her "pain is controlled with tylenol.. and she's fine.
So here I am in tears about the situation, needing help from a friend... I did ring management and explain MY situation and she starts bitching to everyone who will listen about every thing I have ever done wrong at work and that I am abusing drugs etc.... its like WTF!!
I have to work with her in a couple of days, what am I sposed to do, pretend like nothings happened.. point out that she's the f'ing WORST friend ever... or appeal to her good nature....
dunno what to do.. I am just sooo stressed, almost in tears AGAIN... I just wanna have time with my kids!
Coralie XxX
Feel like a rant. I dunno how much people here really know about me. I'm 32, had a divorced.. kids to that arse aged from 7-10 years. My mum died suddenly (at 52) in March and I married my new husband in April. He is awesome :). But anyway... We met on the net and really fell in love... I've been working full time for a year now started to get him here through immigration etc. its actually not easy to move to Australia from the UK like you thhink it would be.
So anyway in January my ass of an ex decided to change his weekends around so we both worked the same weekend... that causes issues with custody etc... cut a loong story short.. work has been out of sync for me since he changed and I work 20 hours the sat and sunday that I have the kids.
Anyway he's moved somewhere thats almost a 3 hour round trip now.
When I worked that out I was in a panic... How the F*** am I supposed to actually spend any time with them, support my family and do that trip
I can barely do a 45 min drive. (Hubby is tryin realhard to get a job so I can work less, and get his drivers license)
Sooo.... only thing I can do, I appealed to my work...
And a woman who is supposed to be my friend.... has blocked my appeal.. it is a direct swap of a weekend, her kids are grown and her hubby doesn't work. it does not change anything for her. What makes it worse... is this woman ALSo claims to have fibro.. (but I swear she has ADHD- when you work with her, there are no rests)... She bends down and checks under all the beds etc.. her "pain is controlled with tylenol.. and she's fine.
So here I am in tears about the situation, needing help from a friend... I did ring management and explain MY situation and she starts bitching to everyone who will listen about every thing I have ever done wrong at work and that I am abusing drugs etc.... its like WTF!!
I have to work with her in a couple of days, what am I sposed to do, pretend like nothings happened.. point out that she's the f'ing WORST friend ever... or appeal to her good nature....
dunno what to do.. I am just sooo stressed, almost in tears AGAIN... I just wanna have time with my kids!
Coralie XxX
As far as Working with someone who has just MAXED you out...Practice Breathing Before ya have to deal with her...then Deal with her ONLY on an as Needed basis...keep it Light, Friendly...say Nothing..Act as tho she has Not bothered you in the Least..Not as hard as it seems...
as far as your Ex is concerned, he is the One that Moved...he should be able to Meet you half way to Drop Off, Pick up the Kids...this is the way My Ex and I always did it...Only Fair...Pick a Pleasant Place...No Stress...
Hugs...
And as for your friend, maybe there is a reason for her reaction. But it bothers her to say. Usually to my experiance a person doesnt snap unjless they have had a bad day or something bothering them at home.
Either way be kind, ( grandma always said killem with kindess ) * still looking for that book she found it in * LOL
Sending Hugs and Prayers that things get better
Please be careful in diagnosing someone by their appearance. You've heard the phrase, "You look fine." haven't you? I'm sure I don't look like I'm worthy of any sympathy - I know because people tell me about it all the time - even at my worst I'm the picture of health.
You can't know what she's going through to behave this way. Since she's been a friend in the past, her behavior suggests there's more to the story than you know.
I would suggest you remain as impersonal and professional as possible when you have to work with her. That way, no one can say anything negative about you. You just stick to your guns. Hopefully, your boss or HR can help you both work it out.
But honestly, I think the burden of solving this should be on the children's father. You've got enough to deal with.
first of all... been waiting for 10 months for the father to solve this issue... never gonna happen... even with a family study commissioned by the family court saying HE should fix it....
secondly... we all know one of these people.. (this is for you unduki! - the don't diagnose part) who ... if you have an earache, before you get the words out of your mouth they have told you all about how they burst their eardrum on several occassions and are practically deaf in one ear.... or if you hurt your back, they will tell you about every car accident they have ever had, the whiplash etc how long the pain lasted for and they are completely stuffed forever cos of someone else's fault..... need I go on..... I think someone may have said she had fibro in the past but based solely on pain.. she has had a lot of accidents etc.... its the complete lack of fatigue (she works loads of overtime and is always telling me about what she is doing for everyone else etc... I couldn't have even kept up that pace at 21 and healthy) -that has me "miffed" about her "diagnosis".AND also the fact that she cannot pronounce fibromyalgia properly (and doesn't know anything about it other than pain)....
As for her "motives" - I know what her "problem" with it is.. she won't be working with the lady she is working with now... she is a lovely lady.... the other is also great but not quite as good.. where she would end up... but she would still work with the lovely lady 8 out of 10 shifts.
God, the other lady - the nice one, was considering giving me HER job (big sacrifice) because of the family effects and stress of working on the wrong weekend.... but also because she wants to be away from the woman I was talking about (she's so high maintenance, stroking her ego etc gets very tiring)
She's so upset with the nasty co-worker about this.. her words were, I don't trust her anymore, She'd feed me to the wolves before helping me, even if I really need it, regardless of any friendship....
so meh... She's a bitch.. I gotta mask that fact so work can be a "happy place" ... but F*** HER if she ever wants anything from me.
Coralie XxX