Did the Dr give you any meds to deal with the pain & other symptoms? If not, get back to the Dr to get meds to allow you to function at some level. It wouldn't hurt to see a therapist either. Depression goes along with fibro & antidepressants can really help. All you can do is treat the symptoms. Hope this helps.

My gp wont give me what the rheumatoligist suggested till he gets the erport back from him he has given me amitriptyline but am unable to use them as my baby sleeps in the bed with me and i feel its unsafe to take things that will make me sleep to deeply but nothing form pain till reports bck that could be any where up 6 wks

Have you been sleep deprived? You may have adrenal fatigue. You could try D-Ribose during the morning for energy.

Another thing would be to check into home care. There may be a few options for that. Freeing up the every day housework, tasks and laundry may help.

Have hubby help make a week's worth of meals for you all and put them in the freezer.

Can your hubby take paternity leave? Maybe check into this at his work.

Is there a neighbor or relative you can get in for a couple of hours a day? Two should be going to school, which will leave two little ones still at home.

hugs.

FMLA....family medical leave act; I think the worker is covered for 12 weeks of unpaid leave with the promise that he will get his current position back.

Perhaps it might be better to advertise for some after school help from high school students to keep the kids busy in order for you to start dinner, do a couple chores and also relax a little. They pay rate is very low, especially if you allow computer time and feed them. Even if you live close to a college, advertise there also.

Good luck.

Have you tried looking for services in your are? Like catholic charities? Also look into food pantries they have resources too.. My hubby works and he does not much either snd I have a 5yo and 12 yo. Make sure you take breaks very important. Have you tried calling family for a break durning the day to nap? How about frozen dinners to help cut down on standing. Get a kitchen chair it helps.

your husband needs to work, the way the economy is a job and benefits are very important. He has a family to support and look after and that is working and making sure you have benefits.

When the 7 year old comes home from school and after homework that child should be able to fold the clothes and do little jobs around the house.

The five year old is also able to do small things to help also. Like pick up toys and put them away. plus other little jobs.

If you have family around dont be afraid to ask for help.

The frozen meal idea is a great idea.

I know you seemed overwhelmed but just take it day by day and soon those kids will be older.

I would look for other solutions other than husband quitting work. This just doesn't sound like a good solution marriage wise or financially. Can you hire a little help? Even a highschooler could come sleep at night to take care of baby while you sleep. And I agree, get some meds. Put the baby in its own bed and get some sleep. Take the amitript. Find out about vits and d-ribose (your doc prob. doesn't know about this.) Read about it at vitality101.com. This vit coctail and d-ribose have saved me and helped many on this site. But the key is to sleep.

I take Amitryptyline and still wake up when there is a crisis situation like baby waking up etc. This is safe to take & lots of new mothers with fm I know still wake up if and when an Emergency situation comes up like baby crying etc.!!!!!!!!

Heya hun,sorry to hear you are having such a time of it.
My partner was able to take a few days of special paid leave and is fortunate to have flexi-time which he can build up and take when I really need help.
I would also look into what help you may be able to get with your children and general house keeping chores.We have many diferent resources here in England but you do have to hunt them out,maybe your health visitor or childrens nurse could help you find some??
I also second the advice to get meds from your dr,I personally could not cope with my everyday life and 5 children without my meds.
Sleep is also VERY,VERY important hun,
I hope that you get things sorted soon hun,keep us posted??