I have had days like that but was a stepmom awhile and teenagers are impossible but that really was a nasty thing to say. I usually take some excedrin or take my muscle relaxants and tramadol pain med and take a nap with my heating pad. I have been eating much lately. Sometimes my stomach is so sick I have to just nap. If you kids are older they should be more understanding but my ex never undersood anything and was always after me for being lazy and wanted me clean up. It hard for anyone to understand how much you hurt because gee you don't look sick! I can't stand that one. sometimes I wish I had a removeable body cast that I could take on and off. I get a lot of headaches and migranes because of weather changes. I don't know if you have anything to take for flares or break through pain or if you believe in it. Try talking to your doctor about something if you feel you need something. but don't think you will get narcotics or opiates. If sleeping is also your problem for a long while there are things to take for short periods of time. I would love to be with all holistic things but I can't afford it. Some people are to sensitive for muscle relaxants. They release the tightness and allow me to have some time to recoop. I so sorry that you are feeling this way. I know how it feels. It is incredibly painful and frustrating to be in such pain.

Aww sweetie I know how you feel , I wish I had some awesome advice for you ,I can come and slap the boy !1 Lol .My kids have no pity for me at all spoiled brats ,they are all grown now .My husband is an ass ,he just expected everything to stay the same for him . I suffer and he expects the same old life . Hugs to you and i hope things get better for you .

here's an idea.........pull a willy nelson on him :
wait till the brat's asleep, sew him up in his sheets, and beat the crap out of him!
when he starts whining about how bad he hurts ask him when he's gonna hurry up and die.

Try eating 3 well chewed stalks of celery everyday. I just read that it is supposed to be good stopping nerve pain. I tried it 4 days ago, and I noticed that my pain did go away, but I can't if it was because of the celery.

Please try it and see if it helps!

Concerning the celery, most recommend that you juice the celery and drink it, but I just washed mine and cut it pieces and ate them that way, that's why in said to chew it well.

I think I am going to try it again today and make eating it a regular habit.

I am so sorry that you have been feeling sick and i understand that while the bed is probably best for righr now,i know what it feels like when i am bedridden.what are the ages of your sons and who else were you referring to when you said they dont get it.i could send you the strongest widest DUCT TAPE i can find.if you are like me the emotional abuse was always the worse.i come from the old school,that kind of disrespect just dont fly.is it possible you could call your dr.i pray you feel relief immediately.maddie.

You deserve pain relief. Call your Drs. and ask for help. Teenage boys do grow up, mine is 30 now and paying the mortgage, used to run out of the house when I cried. Love them, I lost a son two years ago. Love yours and find solutions for the pain. I take Xyrem for sleep and it's a blessing to have deep sleep again. Get a sleep Dr., a pain Dr. Be active in finding HELP. You don't deserve to suffer like this, it's of no use at all.

Maddie, I like the duct tape idea....lol My chiroptactor always told me to get a role of duct tape and duct tape them to the wall, he was joking of course.

I do see doctors but I have trouble taking any kind of medication so the only thing I am on is Lorazepam. I take 2 every night at bed time but they aren't working as well anymore. I also get neck injections every 3 months but they aren't working either. My upper neck and back of my head is where I hurt the most. The doctors say they can't do anything for the constant headaches I have.

I used to have more good days then bad but I have pretty much been bedridden since 2008 and in constant pain. The doctor at the pain clinic I go to is worthless. He says all he can do is the injections. What good is going to a pain clinic if they can't help with the pain? I will try the celery advice, I'm up for anything that might help.

I am sorry you are going through this. The one thing that did help me when I was going through a rough period, after they tried the pain killers, unsuccessfully, they gave me a sleeping pill that made me sleep for two days, I vaguely remember waking up to drink and eat something small. As we all know we cant sleep with the pain, and the pain gets worse without sleep. The sleep helped tremendously, it allowed my body to relax and get whatever it needed, and this was about 6 months of pain, where you wish you could be naked in the dead of winter and not need a blanket because it is heavy and hurts too much. May be an option to discuss with your doctor. For my headaches which I used to get horrible migraines and become violently sick from them. I started using peppermint oil (I dont know if we can say the brand name, so I wont,), the one I use is the purest of the ones on the market (I am not a distributer, or related to the company in anyway besides as a customer). The peppermint oil actually clears everything up. It helps tremendously with the headaches.
Regarding your teenager. They are not the most sensitive or compassionate creatures, however, seeing it from his side (and this is only talking to my kids and how they felt from watching me, they are younger though), it must be extremelly hard to see his mother in so much pain, and it probably scares him, as well frustrates him...and as they are selfish at that age, probably doesnt like that you are not able to do what he needs at all times, not your fault. When he says something stupid, tell him he is, and see it as his incompetent way of expressing his feelings. I had an ex who did it that way, and he was in his late 30s, so it could be a guy thing, or just a way to express themselves, very poorly...I dont know.

first the next time ur son tells u that i'd back his ass up and so ok i will but then who will do all the fukin' shit u won't do for urself sorry i'm swearin' but to me that is the most disrespectful thing a kid can say in my book..... sorry ur havin' headaches dealin' with one today also thought they was better but not!!!! gentle hugs sent ur way!!!!

How do you use the pepermint oil? I have horrible headaches everyday and they make me so sick to my stomach. Sometimes for months at a time I can only drink those Insure drinks and it takes a day just to drink one.

I know my boys are frustrated. I am not able to cook meals anymore for them so they eat a lot of junk food because they can't cook. I can't drive anymore so we don't go places or do things together. I also suffer from vertigo and that is why I can't drive. The vertigo is an every day thing which is another reason I'm in bed most days. I had a bad bout of vertig in 2009 and was bedridden for 3 months. Sometimes it just hurts when the boys get so angry with me. I would do anything to have my normal pain free life back.

I am so so sorry for the pain and frustration you are going through, angel42. I wish I could take everyone's pain away. I am sending up some major prayers for you, and for your healing.
As for your sons, I am so sorry that they disrespect you and say such cruel words to you on top of everything else you are dealing with. My family can be angry with me at times too because they cannot possibly concede the horrific and dibilitating pain I am going through. I do not pray this disease on anyone, but I know what it is like to be reduced to tears because you feel so alone and in so much pain.
Please know that you always have the support of others (like myself) who are going through this terrible disease, especially on those days and sometimes weeks where you feel so isolated.
I pray that your sons will also start to realize what an amazing mom they have, and that she is still there - she is just weighed down by a pain they cannot begin to understand.

You who have posted here who have serious headaches all the time should look into getting a bite guard (or splint). I have TMD (temporal mandibular joint dysfunction) and just got a new guard. My old one was probably 10 years old and wasn't working so well anymore because I bite down so hard at night. I had been having terrible migraines for several months and had hoped getting the new guard would help. The good news is that it did!! I think it was all the tension that built up overnight as I bit down so hard on the old bite guard.

In fact, the dentist that gave me both guards was the one who diagnosed me with FMS. No one at the hospital could pin it down. This dentist caught it right away, as soon as he went through my paperwork. Amazing. He's an angel for me.

Good luck to all of us, headaches or not.

I get extremely depressed when I feel like that! Eventually it does pass, but it feels like forever. You have got to listen to your body and rest and do as little as possible, let what little energy your body does have be available to fight the flare. I have problems when I get in a bad flare like that because I live alone, and it's hard to fix anything to eat, take a shower, walk dog, get dressed, buy groceries..etc.. I've learned to stock up on microwave dinners and cans of soup for those times. Also, as much as I hate to do it, sometimes I have to ask for help, ask someone to get a few things from the store for me... but when I'm in a bad flare like that, I find it hard to even drink and eat..even if someone made it and brought it to me, chewing and swallowing feels like too much energy being used. I usually end up dehydrated and have more problems. Been to ER several times for dehydration.