Fibromyalgia Support Group
You're not alone in your pain. Fibromyalgia is a condition that can be difficult to diagnose and manage. If you're trying to cope with pain throughout your body, sleep problems, general fatigue, or other common fibromyalgia symptoms, you're in the right place. The community is here for you to talk about therapies and share your challenges.
It's nice to have a place to vent where people understand. Especially because today is one of those days I feel like screaming, NO ONE UNDERSTANDS!!
I way over-did it yesterday, and of course paid for it today. Extreme fatigue, lots of pain, just an all around bad day. I ended up getting annoyed at my husband because he was working on his computer to get it up and running after it fried, and I was taking care of the baby all day. He had asked me ahead of time if it was ok to work on the computer and I said yes, but it ended up taking him almost 5 hours, which was way longer than expected. I was exhausted and needed a break from baby duty so I asked him to take over and he asked me to wait ten minutes, which annoyed the crap out of me.
I know that I over reacted a bit, since I didn't communicate effectively the urgent need for relief. And I waited too long until I completely burned myself out instead of asking him earlier. Plus I have a guilt thing, where I hate having to ask for help, especially if it is to care for the baby. I feel like that is my responsibility and I want it to be, and it makes me feel awful that it is too much for me sometimes.
How do you all deal with the guilt? On my bad days, I feel like a lazy good-for-nothing and I feel guilty over what I haven't done. Then on my good days I over-do and end up regretting it later and then feeling guilty for doing it to myself. And I feel like a failure having to ask people for help. I know I shouldn't and that they are here to help, but I still feel guilty. Ugh.
I way over-did it yesterday, and of course paid for it today. Extreme fatigue, lots of pain, just an all around bad day. I ended up getting annoyed at my husband because he was working on his computer to get it up and running after it fried, and I was taking care of the baby all day. He had asked me ahead of time if it was ok to work on the computer and I said yes, but it ended up taking him almost 5 hours, which was way longer than expected. I was exhausted and needed a break from baby duty so I asked him to take over and he asked me to wait ten minutes, which annoyed the crap out of me.
I know that I over reacted a bit, since I didn't communicate effectively the urgent need for relief. And I waited too long until I completely burned myself out instead of asking him earlier. Plus I have a guilt thing, where I hate having to ask for help, especially if it is to care for the baby. I feel like that is my responsibility and I want it to be, and it makes me feel awful that it is too much for me sometimes.
How do you all deal with the guilt? On my bad days, I feel like a lazy good-for-nothing and I feel guilty over what I haven't done. Then on my good days I over-do and end up regretting it later and then feeling guilty for doing it to myself. And I feel like a failure having to ask people for help. I know I shouldn't and that they are here to help, but I still feel guilty. Ugh.
The key is to ask for help when you need it. After awhile asking for help will become a habit the same way guilt became a habit. Fibro takes a lot out of us. With a family, you will over do it. I wish I can say otherwise, but hey... I'm a male.
When I was young with a baby and my computer broke, the last thing on my mind was to help out with the baby and wife. Men can be task oriented, multitasking can be next to impossible for most of us males.
Do your best... we have a very supportive group here.
I think that when you have a beautiful garden or have spent a lot of time and effort on a home project, you can sit back and feel proud of the work you did. And I can't say I was a part of creating it. Ya know?
Just saying......I'm in the "boat" with ya- as most of us here are!