I totally understand. Sometimes I feel like my husband and I are playing who hurts the worse. When he complains about a headache sometimes I just look at him like "really" you should be in my body right now. There are days, like you I am sure, that I would be happy with just a headache. I hope you have a better day today with less pain. Take care.

That' was me too until I started taking Cymbalta (30 mg only, cause more makes me jittery) and an anti- inflammatory. Now I can do lots more without pain.still, no Olympics training, mind you :)

Emily- What is the name of your anti inflammatory? Just curious, I think I need something like that.

Sometimes just doing a few chores around the house and cooking supper does me in! Regarding comparing pain, I have a friend who is very supportive about my fibro. One day she was complaining about her back hurting. Then, she just stopped and said, "Oh my gosh. I feel so stupid for complaining about my back when you're in pain everywhere all the time."

I still have empathy for other people's pain because I know how it feels. So it made me feel bad that she thought her pain wasn't important to me. BUT... it definitely was refreshing to have someone acknowledge what I suffer with daily.

Hope you're feeling better soon!

Oh yeah, I guess we also have to remember that other people aren't as "tough" as us fibro people! So we have to cut 'em some slack. LOL

Oh, I've given up cooking and housework. Just too tired most of the time. Do try to keep some organization, the girl comes twice a month, and husband and grown dtr. must do the rest. I'm a simple eater, happy with a potato, or egg, or froz. food. Love sphagetti, and sardine sandwiches for my bones. I'd been cooking 40 years and more when I quit. It's too physical and too demanding, I just can't do it anymore.

We must limit our chores, our resources are limiting. Be well, Abby

Wow you did all that? No wonder you hurt so bad!

Yeah I do the same when someone gets cranky over stubbing a toe or a minor headache. My husband will crawl in bed when he has a minor head ache and he'll act like life is over.
But when I feel like crap he USUALLY (not always) acts compassionate towards me.

I agree with Abby..... limiting chores or at least pacing your self is what it has come down to. Maybe clean up one room per day will work out better for you. I'll be lucky if I can get my room clean in one week. lol

Good luck and I hope you feel better tomorrow!

I try to be sympathetic to hubby as he gives me a nightly massage (he's got a bad sacroliac from a ladder fall)... but it's hard. His pain goes away with a minor massage and for that, I'm thankful. I don't think I could tolerate his whining all time! lol

My husband was in a wreck two weeks ago. He flipped his company truck and everything inside, went flying around. His work tools etc. The truck landed on the passenger side, so when he let himself out of his seatbelt--he fell head first to the passenger door. He said he hurt EVERYWHERE. Luckily x-rays and CT scans showed no permanent damage. but he couldn't move for 3 days. I babied him and took care of him. He then said " Now I understand your pain, when you say you feel like you have been run over by a truck." He then got tears in his eyes, because he KNEW his pain would go away eventually(plus he knew what CAUSED his pain) but he knew mine won't EVER go away. He has always been very supportive of me, but this just made him FEEL my pain a little more,

I don't know about you but the action of scrubbing something kills my shoulders and arms so I now have someone come once a month to clean my bathrooms and kitchen. My husband and I do the rest around the house but having someone else do that helps so much. I hope this morning finds you better. Be gentle to yourself

If I clean the bathroom, that's all I can do that day. In fact, I have to do it in stages. The whole process takes me all day. I just can't do anything like I used to anymore. I remember the day (actually fondly!) of cleaning the whole house on Sat. morning, after working all week!!

Wow - I am right there with you! My sympathy is running very low for my boyfriend right now, he has no idea what this pain can be like!

WoW - You did a lot! I don't clean anything and I wince when I hear the word "scrub." Even when I was well, I wasn't a house-cleaner. My husband cleans with OCD-like attitude. So I'm lucky there.


Soft hugs!