Welcome, hello, and oh boy, I know just what your husband needs:-) When I was dx'd back in 1995 (the Fibro Dark Ages, which are now the Fibro Less-Dark Ages)... My hubby was all, "Why can't you at 25 still work three jobs and cook, clean, etc., and do it with a smile?" I took him to my rheumatologist, who was a man with fibro, and they had a "chat". Also, I keep the book Fibro For Dummies around. It's useful for us, and a fave on this board, but it's also useful for family, doctors, and giving you something to shove in their faces to make your point. "For. Dummies!"

First off, the weight issue? Sorry, that's stress on your whole body. I kow, I know, shut up and prove it. But it's just medical fact, da*n it.

Buy a pedometer. I worked a few months in boutique clothing retail for women, and we all clocked about six miles a day on an eight-hour shift when we did th Pedometer Experiment. So check your actual time *walking and moving* versus "standing still". THat sounds weird, but standing is the same as sitting as far as your metabolism is concerned. So you can get a good idea of how many miles you walk in a day at work, which also shuts up annoying relativse and friends. Also, helps you talk to your doc about your physical activity on a daily level.

I lose weight by calorie control. I'm not a calorie counter, that's insanity waiting to happen for a nerd like me, but I threw out my scale and said, "OK, this bowl is how much I eat for supper. I fill this with whatever it is, then that's that for supper." (It's a bowl that came with the set of dishes we bought 20 years ago.) Breakfast is the same bowl, usually oatmeal and wheat bran combined. Lunch is a single handful of trail mix (homemade). All I drink is low to no-cal. And when hungry, I drink a glass of water, and wait 20-30 minutes. If I'm still hungry, I'll nibble a few walnuts or almonds (you may prefer dried fruit, whatever). Slow going, but the body prefers a sow weight loss. The faster you lose weight, the more likely you are to have it return, as a general rule for most people.

All that aedvice given? Eh, what do I know? Just sharing what's working, more or less, for me.

Smiles and healing to you,
Leo

Oh for pity's sake... Sorry, SLOW weight loss. My keyboard was sat upon by a cat yesterday and it hasn't fully recovered. Argh. Apologies. *headdesk*

Hey, Denise! I'm a bama girl, too, but a war eagle fan! I'm right there with you on the weight issue, too. I lost a bunch of weight on medifast and was doing great on the maintenance, then life happened. My dear mother died, and my only grandchild moved to Mexico!

I fell apart and gained back all my weight. I truly think because you're on your feet all day and moving around, you're getting exercise. I think if you lowered your carb intake and portions, like Leo suggested, you'd see the weight come off. (And I would too, if I'd follow that advice!). I've always noticed that cutting out sugar, bread, rice, potatoes, etc., helps me lose weight. It's just a matter of doing it and getting my head in the game.

I also understand about your husband's comments. Mine says similar things. I just ignore a lot of it, because I know he doesn't understand what I'm going through.

It's good to see you here, although I'm sorry you're suffering with this. I hope to get to know you better.

Welcome! I want to start by giving you kudos for working at that job. I cannot imagine doing a physically demanding job for 6 days a week. I have a desk job and sometimes I can barely manage it. I was going to the gym, but it is really tough when you feel like crap and are beyond exhausted. I gained 40# when I first got fibro, between having a hard time putting one foot in front of the other combined with Cymbalta. I have long since quit the cymbalta, but haven't lost the weight either. I really need to reduce my carb intake, but I LOVE CARBS!!

My hubby has been pretty decent, so I don't really have much advise with that. His biggest issue is that when we go somewhere, he doesn't understand that I cannot stay there all night.

Thank you all for the comments! I do know I need to loose weight and I was able to a few years ago when I was not working 6 days/52 hours a week. I had the energy to actually go to the gym and work out. I lost 50 pounds. Have since gained it all back and am TRYING to get it back off ( have lost 25 of it again ).
I will look into getting that book LeoX3, and thank you for the advice.
Fibrolizzy..thank you for your reply and advice... ROLL TIDE!! hehehe I am a die hard Bama fan but still love my fellow tigers. :) What part of Alabama are you from? I hope to get to know you better as well.
basketballmom, thank you as well for the advice.
I do know what I need to do to loose the weight it is just getting into THAT mind set and just pushing through the pain. I am not on any meds for the fibro, maybe I need to look into some? What do you all take? As far as eating, I am not a big eater at all. Matter of fact that is probably one of the things that I have going against me. I dont eat breakfast or lunch at work then just eat supper at home. ( I have a really bad stomach and being alone at work in the day time makes it hard to run to the bathroom) I know TMI Im sorry.. SO with that being said, I am just all kinds of screwed up lol
thanks again yall!!
Denise