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Seriously?

jrk1288
jrk1288
I've been dealing with a flare since Thursday because I've had too much to do the last couple weeks and couldn't get out of it. So I have barely been sleeping since then because the pain was keeping me up, but still had stuff I had to do over the weekend...I told my boyfriend what was going on and he was being supportive until he woke me up at freaking 2:15 this morning and asked for a back rub because he was having trouble sleeping. So he got back to sleep and I've been awake since 2:15 and have to work an 11 hour shift today. When he got up this morning I nicely asked him not to wake me up in the middle of the night if he knows I haven't been sleeping well and he gave me an indignant sigh as a response. WTF. Here's hoping I can get through this shift without acting out any of the homicidal thoughts running through my head -_-
Rachel100
Rachel100
Yeow, what's the matter with him? How could ANYONE wake another person just for a back rub? What? I don't blame you for your homicidal thoughts.
jcpmoore
jcpmoore
I am so sorry for what you're going through. What he did was incredibly selfish. It sounds like you need to sit down and have a talk with him when you both have some time. Explain the way the lack of sleep affects your pain and overall condition. Then explain how hard it is to get back to sleep after you wake up. Try not to point out his action in this--just focus on the reality of the situation. Hopefully this will help him realize that everything has a consequence and in the case of fibro patients, that consequence is long-lasting and can be severe.

Hugs,

Jenna
PeaceN2You
PeaceN2You
I wouldn't even go to the "when you know I'm not sleeping well." Just "Don't wake me up when I'm sleeping unless the house is on fire."

Rude, selfish, inconsiderate...if I thought long enough I'd come up with more.
LynnJ55
LynnJ55
I am so sorry your husband is such an inconsiderate, selfish oaf. More words come to mind, but they are unprintable.
AnnNY
AnnNY
I think most men just go back to sleep when they wake up. But women, expecially fibro, women struggle for every moment of sleep we get!
SonyaSunshine
SonyaSunshine
My hubs can do some seriously idiotic crap too. But you didn't mention anything specific, other wise that would premeditated, instead of a crime of sleep deprived passion. Lol. I would make him rub my back a little so I could relax to sleep. But as with men that might lead to him wanting some.

You cant win for losing.. Hope you can get to sleep tonight.
Abotsd
Abotsd
Yes, as Peace says. My family learned early, don't wake Mama! our sleep is our best treatment.
MadelinefFromNJ
MadelinefFromNJ
He obviously wasn't thinking. If I couldn't get back to sleep after he woke me up, I'd wake him up to keep me company. *big smile*
MsRee
MsRee
That was a very selfish thing to do. I don't care what you have going on with you if the house not on fire the kids haven't broken a bone or something than leave me alone because please believe I have a lot of restless nights and I never bother you. You good to not have cursed him out right than and there out of his sleep. "Wake your ass up" LMAO since I can't sleep than neither can you. Work things out cause I'm mad for you. Best of Luck
gramybear
gramybear
Seriously is an understatement. Is he even aware of how unthoughtful he was being? If not, he needs to know. Hugs GB
bluesun
bluesun
How can he do that do you?! That's so selfish!

I know how you feel! That's so messed up! My husband can get up in the middle of the night and usually go back to sleep no problem. If he has trouble sleeping he'll read a book for a little bit and fall right asleep reading. But if he wakes me up or one of the cats wake me up, chances are I'll be awake for HOURS or the REST OF THE NIGHT! And he doesn't understand that! My husband likes to sleep with the cats in the bedroom and I usually try to take them out of the bedroom because they almost ALWAYS jump on me, walk on me, meow at me, etc, once I go to sleep, or in the middle of the night. UGH!

I hope you can knock some sense into your boyfriend! hugs
Christine1976
Christine1976
This is why I will forever stay single!!
jrk1288
jrk1288
Just to clarify, he can be absolutely amazing, caring and thoughtful. But, when he's really stressed or not feeling well (anything from a cold to a backache to not sleeping well) he just doesn't think of anyone else. Believe me, if it happens again he will be getting an earful.