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jrk1288
jrk1288
Why does it seem like everything happens at once? The past week has been hell. I had a crazy day at work where we all had to work through break because my boss has no concept of time when she schedules surgeries, then I had a panic attack over the fact that I've been looking for a new job for months and I'm getting nowhere. The next 4 days I was having a flare and still had to work because I can't afford to take time off, and during that time someone else took 3 days bereavement for a distant relative who she didn't even care about (meaning we were a man down and had to work harder). the past 2 days my fibro has calmed down, but I now have a stomach bug. I was also scheduled extra hours this week because the girl who took bereavement also took yesterday and today off (so she conveniently ended up with a whole week off). I still have to work tomorrow and drive my boyfriend somewhere Sunday, and I feel like I'm about to fall apart, physically and emotionality. So that's my rant. Hopefully you are all having a better week than I am...
mamie1890
mamie1890
well if she can take a decoy bereavement day you can call in sick because you really are. Somehow they will manage.
basketballmom23
basketballmom23
Feel better. Hopefully you could get out of driving your BF so you can rest.
marsharebel
marsharebel
You'll learn. I did. I was one of those people who stuck my hand up to volunteer to,help everybody BUT myself. take it from someone who's been there, take the time. Don't feel like you are responsible for'things that aren't ( like working through an illness because this gal is off for bereavement leave ). if you don't own the company, forget it! Nobody can take care of you in this situation, just you. do it and don't apologize. It's amazing that you still work at all, I mean, really! you deserve to be cared for!
LeoX3
LeoX3
Hugs.

Just... hugs...

Take a mental health day---call in sick, sleep all day, watch movies, etc.---or make sure you've got one scheduled for the weekend, and tell BF to get another ride if you can.

As Marsha said, kudos to you for doing so much to begin with!

:-)
jrk1288
jrk1288
So I didn't get an even remotely relaxing day Sunday...I did drive my boyfriend, which I only agreed to because he told me his parents were busy all day and this wouldn't be a social thing. Halfway there (it's about a 40 minute drive each way), they text him asking if we want to go out to breakfast...I had gotten up early to feed the cats and make breakfast because I was planning on going to yoga class right when we got back (which my boyfriend knew about). My anxiety was already acting up so I just said Idk, if you want to. When we got there it was clear that he and his dad/dad's gf all wanted to go, so that happened and I was the person sitting there awkwardly drinking coffee while everyone else ate. Then we got back and they asked if we wanted to hang out for a bit...again they all wanted to so I just sat there trying to focus when my brain just wouldn't. It was 1 in the afternoon when we got back and I had a breakdown on the ride home because I still had laundry and stuff to do that I was too tired to do Saturday (in addition to helping him carry his big toolbox down the stairs to the apartment)...sooo we had a conversation about how I need to speak up for myself, which I think I explained how hard that is when I'm put on the spot like that..bad experiences there from childhood and such.

On the bright side...I got offered a full-time job and put in my notice today. The owner of this practice seems really down to earth, and I know someone who works there who says she's great. And they have lint rollers (my current boss thinks they're not worth the 50 cents or whatever, and we should just hold onto stressed out animals all day and not worry about wearing a few pounds of hair into the next appointment), and it doesn't seem like they'll randomly cut my hours. So hopefully things will be better at work now that I can count down the days I have left there!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Try to take time to rest and stop thinking of other and take care of you. Hope things get better.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If you're sick you're sick. Eventually you have to learn your limits and know when to say no. I'm 12 years post Dx, and I'm still working on that myself. We're having a similar week by the way, so my heart goes out to you.