Female Sexual Issues Support Group

Sexual dysfunction or sexual malfunction is difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (which includes desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) that prevents the individual or couple from enjoying sexual activity. Sexual dysfunction disorders are generally classified into four categories: sexual desire disorders, sexual arousal disorders, orgasm disorders, and sexual...

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krm
krm
A few of you ladies talk about a man bng too small or too big, or you are too tight and it hurts. I believe that if a man provides proper foreplay that a woman will tighten up, but her body will lubricate itself to provide for perfect love making. Am I right or am I wrong ??????
deleted_user
deleted_user
that seems like a valid question to me

i think that with proper foreplay a womans body will be lubricated enough to not feel too tight or uncomfortable. however, that being said lubrication can be a problem for some.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Some women have other issues though that are not related to lubrication. Some women have been victims of rape, or molestation and that kinda overtakes them no matter what kind of foreplay is done.

Some women also don't "lubricate" well depending on meds, or hormones etc.
deleted_user
deleted_user
not always. With an ex - it seemed like everytime started off as painful because of his size but after a few moments everything was fine. Could also have been because sex didn't happen as often as one would have liked. But lubrication was not a problem
deleted_user
deleted_user
For the most part, *I* think you're right. So long as the woman is relaxed anything and everything is do-able

;-)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well you are right but there are also other things that can be at play.

I am VERY blessed to have an amazing lover. He takes his time and I am always lubricated,. But I have not had a baby and my vaginal muscles are very strong. So sometimes the foreplay leads orgasms that make my muscles contract and if he happens to enter just then, it hurts a bit as its like a muscle pull.

Also, he is big and I am small and even with lubrication, sometimes I need him to enter very slow at first and just let my insides relax and be ready for it.

Its always great, and like everything about making love, communication communication communication helps. But I have NO complaints. My man is unreal in bed. Sorry to brag, but the truth is the truth.
SonicSue
SonicSue
I am 49 & peri-menopausal..so i need help (down there) i always use lube..ALWAYS. Its just something you get use to, yes it takes the spontanaety(sp) out of lovemaking..but hey....I blame my raging Hormones!
also certain medications will dry you up.
deleted_user
deleted_user
ur absolutely right, my wife had this issue with me. also, a woman has to be completely relaxed when she has sex or it'll dead kill! she would always tense up with me and it's cuz she was telling herself that it was gonna hurt and so it did.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi,
i agree with all of you i had sexual abuse as a teen. plus my husband is big!lol it's hit or miss if it hurts!! if my mind is in the right place to recieve then it's no problems... but if there is any window in my head to say 'it's gonna hurt, or am i lubricated enough' then it's hurting and we have to take a bit mre time!! and i know it's not my husbands fault he's great... just a mental state on my part.... unfortunately for good reason!!