I actually am going through this right now, and the most important thing i can tell you is hang in there.

Testosterone in a healthy male is so much more important than you would think, when my levels bottomed out i had no drive whatsoever, seriously i didnt want anything to do with my wife. i mean i stilled loved her, i always will but you dont realize how even the little acts of affection like holding hands and cuddling are controlled by this one little hormone.

Also once he starts treatment dont expect a miracle right off the bat, it takes a few months of monitoring and tweaking to get the levels back consistent and to make him feel normal.

But once he becomes acclimatized to the new synthetic hormones in his body then watch out, you will have to carry a stick around just to keep him off from you...lol

Good luck......

Kris......

I don't even talk about sex we are merely roommates at this point he could care less If I was living or breathing I am attractive and all his friends think that I am beautiful and tell him how lucky he is. He shows me off to everyone as a trophy but behind closed doors I am nothing. If my foot brushes beside him in bed he jumps away from me like I have the plague. If he doesnt see how badly I am affected by this then I have no choice but to leave.

Does he have any mental health issues? (anxiety, depression, etc) is he on medications? If the answer to these is no... has he been watching porn? Could he be cheating? How is the rest of your relationship? You need to look at everything.

I could have written this same post, right down to the age & sex of our last child! I have not taken the step for testosterone shots though...not sure we can afford that. Are they covered by insurance? Even if so, I 'm not sure my husband would agree to that. He thought it had something to do with his smoking, so he quit after almost 25 years. Very proud of him for that, but in July it will be one year since he quit & it has not affected his sex drive whatsoever. Was your husband immediately open to the suggestion of shots or did you have to coax & convince him?

is there a deeper under lying problem? Something he's been repressing do the shots but I recommend seeing a therapist to talk things out.

My husband's friend went thru the same thing. He began testostorone shots and he is a new man. It took him about 3 months of shots. He is 43 and from what I hear he is a young buck again.
It sounds very strange that your husband is having these issues. Are you sure there isnt more going on? Stress can play a huge role, so can lack of sleep.

He went to doc last week and gets results tomorrow

Before going to the extreme of injections has he tried any of the more gentle and natural ways of raising his testosterone levels? http://www.testboosters.co.uk/ You sound like an amazing woman and I'm sure he will snap out of it and see it. I'm not sure flirting with his mates is a great suggestion, but do remember to be sexy and don't just put it on a plate for him.

My husband lost interest in sex the day after we got married! He tells me it's normal and that it's also normal for men in their 40's to not have a high sex drive. I disagree highly with these comments. He refuses to get any hormone tests done. I'm pretty much done with fighting it. At times, I'm used to it and can deal as I've had to to maintain my sanity. Other times, I feel as though I've had it. I've come to the realization that there is no answer. Not to be negative, but this is how my situation is - and it's reality.