Don't make it the goal because you wont get there because that is all you will think of. You and you new partner are still exploring each other and finding out what you both like. I don't think masturbation affects orgasms. Masturbation helps you explore what you like and helps you get in touch with your body. It is all in the mind you need to feel comfortable and relaxed. Lots of foreplay and teasing and just have fun. Don't think about the orgasm think about the pleasure you will have with your new partner. I hope this helps.

Your response really helps. I was getting so worked up over it. Do u get my reply to ur email box?

Don't get worked up that will not help. I know that from experience. Relax use all yours senses. The way he feels,sounds, smells etc.. loose yourself in the moment. Have you spoken to your other half? you need good communication. Tell him what you enjoy and get him to do the same. Just talking about it can be quite sexy too. Did you send me a reply through mail then? if you did I did not get it.

No, i didnt send u a personal response. Only posted here. My Q was: when i post a reply to the thread, do you get that in your email as well? Thanks!

Oh I see sorry miss read the question no I do not I unticked the box so I do not get the emails.

there is no "right" way to do it. communication and showing each other what you like is the best way to get things done.

Your reply helps me relax and understand. I think i'm afraid to ask for what I like. I always make sure he is pleased, but I put my needs on the back burner. I feel a bit rushed or if it takes me more time, then there's something wrong with me. Do you get this reply in your email box when I reply to your response here?

i do not get these replies in groups sent to my email, but i do check this website multiple times a day.

some women just take longer than others. it happens. they say the average man only takes 2-3 minutes to orgasm, the average woman takes 10-12 minutes to orgasm. i can say that i definitely take a good 10-20 minutes to orgasm, regardless of if its masturbation or if my partner is doing it.

if you are comfortable enough with your bodies i would possibly try mutual masturbation so you can watch each other do what feels best for your body. or touch each other at the same time. you can speed up touching him if you want him to speed up touching you, or slow down, either way.

Open communication can be key to your pleasure. Don't be afraid to direct your partner to your likes and dislikes. Most guys love to be guided to give ultimate satisfaction. If you are uncomfortable with voicing your needs maybe you can masturbate while he is doing his thing. It takes time to learn about a new partner, relax and enjoy.

Iam 17 year old female I love sex with my boyfriend but when he's not around I love to bring myself off with my sex toys cos I always orgasm where I don't when he makes love to me I feel guilty please help with advice